Let me start by saying that I was here 18 months ago when my husband had an EA with 2 women he still currently works with. Had I not found out when I did, I beleive it would have gone further. In any case, we went through therapy; I took responsibility for my part and made a 180 turn and things have been GREAT. Along comes Facebook......He re-connects with a "friend" and in less than 2 weeks is making plans to be with her and HER KIDs over 1500 miles away. I only found this out because I installed a key logger because of the last time. I hadn't checked it in months but something told me, my intuition, that something was wrong. As soon as I confronted him, he cried, was extremely apologetic, made an appt with a psychologist, and promised to make things right. He constantly texted, spoke and emailed to me that he love dmand and only me and wanted things to work. All this while not thinking I have his work email passwords. He swore that he had no contact with her~he was actually making plans to move back to home to be with her and that our kids" yours and mine" would get along great. Just when I thought I couldn'be devastated anymore, I was wrong. He called her from friend's phones, etc., trying to hide it from me. He's always underestimated me and now he's completely remorseful and crying and carrying on how he loves me and only me and that I had nothing to do with this, that I'm a loving wife and that he screwed up royally. The therapist told him he needs to email the other woman and tell her in no uncertain terms that everything he told her was a lie and that he loves his wife, passing the email by me before he sends it. This was yesterday....he wrote me a letter telling me how sorry he was and that he can't imaging growing old with out me. Still no letter to her telling her that it was all lies. I don't know what to believe. I told him today that I don't want him to write anything to her that he truly doesn't feel and I still haven't seen anything to her yet. He made me believe last week that she meant nothing to him and then he sent pictures of himself to her on Saturday night and that's when they discussed their future. I really don't know what to believe. I've even called her a couple of times and was told that I'm a psycho and need to leave her alone and then I see emails that she writes to him telling him how much she loves him. Please help me!!
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