Would any of you be willing to give me a list of some of the things your spouse did for you in order to reassure and/or comfort you after the affair? Although my wife has given up her lover/best friend she is almost as distant as she was during the affair and doesnt seem too interested in patching things up between us. In fact I have been the one comforting her as she grapples with the guilt and shame of what she has done. When she was calling herself a whore and a screw-up I was there for her. I told her that what she did didnt erase all the good that shes done for me. And how does she return my kindness and understanding? She told me last week that I dont know how to be patient. Isnt nine weeks long enough for her to make some kind of a move towards reconciliation? How long am I supposed to wait? Whats reasonable? I understand that it will take a long time for both of us to heal from this, but how long should I wait for her to start?
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