My husband had an emotional affair with a coworker in September, he became very distant after his mother passed away in July.He shut me out and wouldn't talk to me about anything. After several weeks of living as if we were room mates I decided that there was more going on with him other than his mother. I ask him several times if he needed to talk about it but his reply was always no he was fine. October 16th when he came home from work I ask him again what was going on with him and there it was, he told me that he had a friend at work that he connected with, she helped him through his mothers death. He told me that they shared a kiss but only one and decided that it was wrong since both of them were married. After the kiss they still had lunches together,cell phone calls and emails.He said that they were just friends and that was all, he pleaded with me not to leave him and wanted to seek counseling. We started counseling and that seem to help him but not me. It has been six months and I am still struggling with it. We were in counseling for five months and he is a different person. He is more into my needs than he's ever been and can't seem to do enough to make things right. My problem is that he still works with her and refuses to seek work elsewhere.I struggle with this anger everyday, I need to know if I am asking to much when I ask him to leave his job. He has only worked there two years so it's not like this is a long term job that he would be giving up. He told me that he has no contact with her anymore that they don't even speak and I need to trust him to do the right thing. He said he made a terrible mistake and he would never put our marriage at risk again.I don't think I will be able to continue on with our marriage until she is completly out of our lives. I really need some advice on what you think about this. I love my husband very much but I'm not sure that the daily stress is worth it.
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