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Does one affair indicate a history of affairs?

deleted_user
deleted_user
My husband is currently involved in an affair. Recently I found out that some gifts were given to a woman I don't know, about three years ago.Does this mean there might have been another affair? I have always been a very trusting woman and if it has taken 23 years for this affair to happen- what is the likelihood that there were others? My husband says that he hasn't been happy for awhile- so is this what he does when he feels unhappy? Just wondering what some of you think.
adriennem
adriennem
I am so sorry to hear this. I might find out why he is not happy and address that. If your SEX life is active and Ok I would not be overly concerned but if there are issues there I might investigate further. Try SNOOPBUDDY.COM for some friends to help you and check it out deeper.
Hope that helps
Adrienne
deleted_user
deleted_user
i do believe people can change if they want too. i believe that there has to be a certain level of maturity for them to learn from their mistakes. while i think people can change i also think we as the ones who were cheated on have to have a certain level of "guard" up from this moment on. people can change but they have to truly want to.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i do believe people can change if they want too. i believe that there has to be a certain level of maturity for them to learn from their mistakes. while i think people can change i also think we as the ones who were cheated on have to have a certain level of "guard" up from this moment on. people can change but they have to truly want to.
Thriver
Thriver
I think you need to open the lines of communication with your H. There is a definite possibility that this is only the tip of the iceberg. Perhaps to prevent the communication going wrong, you can do this with a marriage counselor. What you need now is to know the truth, the whole truth. At least, that is what I would want. If you try to get it yourself, he may not want to tell you, you may not believe him, you may not cope well, so it's good to try to do it in a safe place.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Rita,
At first, the thought that this may not hav been the first was an unbearable concept.

The fact is, I dont know. I know of other flirtations, bad enough.

I just cannot deal with anymore now. But people who take the easy way...tend to take the easy way...I think.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Nave,
If he hassn't been "happy" for awhile and now this affair makes him happy- I can only wonder about previous times.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You must ask yourself, if he would do it one time, would he do it more than once?

Yes, probably he would... Why is he unhappy?
Usually, it is because of some character flaw in him... not in you... probably the way he grew up.... They always say that, they copy what their parents have done...
What is happening in your bedroom, always look to what happened in our parents bedroom...
deleted_user
deleted_user
My husband is not at home at this time. I am just tryng to fiigure out if he has been unfaithful in the past as well as currently. It might help me understand the situation etter. He has a family history of a grandfather who was quite the womanizer. He had as many affairs as he had children. His grandmother was a sweet unsuspecting woman who ignored his bad behavior and stayed married or 60 years.
deleted_user
deleted_user
rita21,
I believe when God said, "The sins of the fathers will be visited on the children to the third and fourth generations." that lots of our actions are learned from parents, grandparents, etc.

It is a spiritual law God set in motion and we follow the patterns of our parents, grandparents, and on back... If they were good people and obeyed his laws, then that was passed on also..

Saying that, is not to say that we don't have a choice of what we do.... We (each person) will stand before God and be judged for what we do...

We always have a choice... God gives us the liberty to chose.

You are in my prayers.... God bless you!
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