My dear friend your husband is guilty of emotional cheating. If he goes to all those sites and signs up for them, he will probably be going farther with it. If he hasn't already. What do you say to him about it when this happens? I'd probably jerk the plug out of the wall or something worse. I know that with all your physical challenges that you are limited to what you can do at the present time but I would tell him exactly what I expect him to do or he could get out of your life. He's being very cruel to you in your time of need. You deserve so much better than that my friend.

Thanks BigDebbie for your kind words. Right now I don't do a thing. I guess I am waiting to see how far he will go... He is a bad diabetic and has issues with sex. He does not have a car right now. So, if he does cheat she'll have to pick him up. On a serious note...
I guess I am on overload right now. I am so sad and hurt. I am obese, and ashamed of letting myself get this way. I pray that God will help me get better and find my own way. Even if my life has to be modified somewhat. I mean the job I had I was on my feet nearly all the time and had to make life or death judgements. I have to take so many pain pills and use a TENS unit to help relieve the pain. I just keep telling myself I have to get stronger. If he left right now I couldn't afford to keep my utilities on or be able to get my meds I really need. I am not afraid or anything I just don't think I am strong enough anymore to pick myself, dust myself off, and start over again. Please pray for me. Thanks for being my friend Debbie!

Sorry love that's the doorway to cheating. Ask yourself this...If he happens to me a drop dead georgous woman, who tells him from the very beginning that all she wants is sex, no strings, that she has her own man and just wants to have a little fun...do you REALLY believe he'll turn that down. DOUBT ANY MAN WOULD, HUN. There's a fine line...and the bottom line in MY OPINION..why can't he act out his fantasies with the woman he CLAIMS to love. Or better yet, how would he feel if you go to various sites and build profiles just for fun and fantasy?

NO it does not and a lot of times it is just a fantasy. The whole technical world has really opened up this whole new realm. I wish my husband could help you as he specializes in holistic weight loss and he is amazing with helping people. He is a Chiropractor. Anyway you might want to try Snoopbuddy.com and get someone to snoop for you and do the leg work. Let me know if that helps for you and I send you hugs!!

that sounds like the men on "to catch a pedator" they always say they did not mean the things that they said on-line, it was all fantasy-but they are showing up to a house to have sex with a minor. it starts somewhere, and if left alone it will fester and grow from words to actions. you need to check him right now.

I am married, and my wife recently cheated on me. I went to these sites and actually had something setup with another woman. As things began to get more real, and I realized that I could actually meet up with this woman for sex, I immediately told my wife what was going on. I believe a cheater is a cheater. If he is not a cheater, he will not go through with this. His conscience will get the best of him, and he may actually tell you about it due to his guilt. If he is a cheater, he will do it. I suggest that you do not confront him about it if he is looking. Keep a very watchful eye on him for the time being. DO NOT confront him unless you have SOLID evidence that the affair has occured. If you confront him about just looking, he will hide his potential affair much better if he decides to do it. I would just sit back and see what happens. See if he is worth sticking around for.
I would also ask him if his needs are being met by you. Typically cheating starts due to someone's needs not being met. IT IS NOT AN EXCUSE, but it is a big reason. See if you can get him to open up to you, and see if there is anything that the two of you can do to connect again. This is why he is looking elsewhere, he does not feel "heard" or "connected" anymore.

Once again, I would not confront him unless you have proof that an affair happened. Otherwise he will be watching his back.

If you need his password to the site to monitor his conversations, there are many programs you can buy that take screen shots of a computer screen every 5-10 seconds. Allowing you to view EVERYTHING he has been doing. I would check out "SpectorSoft" it is about $100, but that seems to be a small price to pay for your mental health. I bought it, and found out all kinds of things I never wanted to know, but I needed to know.
I hope this works out for you.
~B