
Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I guess I am on overload right now. I am so sad and hurt. I am obese, and ashamed of letting myself get this way. I pray that God will help me get better and find my own way. Even if my life has to be modified somewhat. I mean the job I had I was on my feet nearly all the time and had to make life or death judgements. I have to take so many pain pills and use a TENS unit to help relieve the pain. I just keep telling myself I have to get stronger. If he left right now I couldn't afford to keep my utilities on or be able to get my meds I really need. I am not afraid or anything I just don't think I am strong enough anymore to pick myself, dust myself off, and start over again. Please pray for me. Thanks for being my friend Debbie!
I would also ask him if his needs are being met by you. Typically cheating starts due to someone's needs not being met. IT IS NOT AN EXCUSE, but it is a big reason. See if you can get him to open up to you, and see if there is anything that the two of you can do to connect again. This is why he is looking elsewhere, he does not feel "heard" or "connected" anymore.
Once again, I would not confront him unless you have proof that an affair happened. Otherwise he will be watching his back.
If you need his password to the site to monitor his conversations, there are many programs you can buy that take screen shots of a computer screen every 5-10 seconds. Allowing you to view EVERYTHING he has been doing. I would check out "SpectorSoft" it is about $100, but that seems to be a small price to pay for your mental health. I bought it, and found out all kinds of things I never wanted to know, but I needed to know.
I hope this works out for you.
~B