The first time my husband cheated (or that I found out about), it was not just a one night stand. He became friends with this woman. He talked about our children and me to her. He talked about his life as a struggle(we have a disabled child). He also portrayed himself to her as a victim. He was NOT. Since that first affair I have found that he has had a few. Some one night stands and some more. When I found his facebook messages and how he would flirt and say such inappropriate things to old girlfriends it made me realize how screwed up he really is. He is doing all of the hurting and it seems like he wants OW to feel bad for him. He can be manipulative and charming. He claims he wants us and says that he has made horrible decisions in his life and yet continues to flirt and set up dates to meet for drinks with old girlfriends. I'm starting to feel like he wants me around because having me as his wife and cheating on me is part of the "high" for him. We are seperated and I am moving on but I feel like it would make me understand all of this if there was a label with it. It's like he's addicted to being sneaky. Anyone have any idea if there's a name for that kind of behavior?? Please don't say narcissic b/c it doesn't completely fit.
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