Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Hi everyone. A little background..I am the cheater in my situation. This month a year ago was D-day. My DH decided to reconcile. Some of you might have read the "agreement" that I posted on here that he wants me to sign(which I haven't done yet because he hasn't brought it up again).
Anyway, here is the new development..I sat down at our computer at home on saturday morning and his email was in the task bar so I clicked on it.For more background..he stays up really late at night on the computer.I have asked him before what he does and he has told me that he reads a lot ..mainly sports stuff and sometimes he plays in game room sites..etc. So anyway, when I click on his email..there is a new message from friendfinder.com that he has one new message. So I read it. It was a girl from the next city over telling him what she was "looking" for. I went to his deleted messages and found the conformation email that gave his password. I logged in and read his profile. He did not lie about anything except he put he was divorced. I also found an email from match.com and went to his profile on that website also. He put he was newly seperated. But he hasn't done anything with that site because to see anything or anyone who is interested you have to pay..where as friend finder is free. He was gone hunting all weekend and wasn't on the computer,but I logged on this morning while he was in bed and noticed that he had deleted his friendfinder profile because they sent him a conformation email stating that.I went and looked at the day he did the profile and he did it on 10/23 so it hasn't been that long ago. I haven't said anything to him and don't know if I should since he deleted it. But I just wonder if he was doing it "just for kicks" to "see" what would happen..why in the world would he put his real age, real location that we live in..I mean everything was right except that he lied about being married of course. I'm so confused. thanks for listening.What should I do?
Anyway, here is the new development..I sat down at our computer at home on saturday morning and his email was in the task bar so I clicked on it.For more background..he stays up really late at night on the computer.I have asked him before what he does and he has told me that he reads a lot ..mainly sports stuff and sometimes he plays in game room sites..etc. So anyway, when I click on his email..there is a new message from friendfinder.com that he has one new message. So I read it. It was a girl from the next city over telling him what she was "looking" for. I went to his deleted messages and found the conformation email that gave his password. I logged in and read his profile. He did not lie about anything except he put he was divorced. I also found an email from match.com and went to his profile on that website also. He put he was newly seperated. But he hasn't done anything with that site because to see anything or anyone who is interested you have to pay..where as friend finder is free. He was gone hunting all weekend and wasn't on the computer,but I logged on this morning while he was in bed and noticed that he had deleted his friendfinder profile because they sent him a conformation email stating that.I went and looked at the day he did the profile and he did it on 10/23 so it hasn't been that long ago. I haven't said anything to him and don't know if I should since he deleted it. But I just wonder if he was doing it "just for kicks" to "see" what would happen..why in the world would he put his real age, real location that we live in..I mean everything was right except that he lied about being married of course. I'm so confused. thanks for listening.What should I do?
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
I don`t know what to tell you other then maybe he is afraid you are going to cheat again and so he joined to see what other options he has....i`m glad you didn`t sign the agreement he wanted as it didn`t sound right to me but maybe he let it drop because he doesnt trust you.. I dont know wht to tell you except for you will have to wait and see ...could be this is just his way of coping with your affairs
It is called educating yourself as to what your other half has been up to. THIS MAY NOT BE CORRECT.
For instance, my other half did loads of porn. I hurt. I am trying not to hurt. The temptation to find out WHAT he has been looking at is strong. I haven't. I could. Should I. Just a little bit. Make us even......Well, no my decision is NO. But it could, by one milimetre of judgement be yes. Not take part, but just educate.
It may only be this.