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Do you talk to the OW's H if they call?

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My H had a 5 month affair that ended(on his part the day after Thanksgiving 06) The OW had since contacted him via cell phone, work phone, e-mail and im's. He has immediately told me of these things(good start on his part). The No Contact boundary has put in place by the local authorities on 1/19/07(due to harrassing calls to our home). However, this morning her husband called and left a message for me asking me to retunr his call. I can only assume he is looking for answers, much like I was in the begining. Do you retunr the call? Ignore it? If I do return the call, does that violate our NC boundary? Has anyone here been faced with a similar situation, and if so, how was it handled or how did it go? Thanks~
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You probably shouldn't call him back. I feel for the guy, but due to the legal nature of things, it's probably not good to talk to him. Maybe you could get a message to him somehow saying you feel bad, would like to help him, but that legally all contact has to be cut off now.

Is he aware of the NC order? If not, he needs to know.
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i think you should talk to him it may help you also. ask your local authorities if you can talk to him, you have the no contact order against her not him, or is it against him also. the woman my husband cheated with was married when they first met and she ruined her relationship with her husband and he divorced her. after i found out i thought about contacting him but i did not because they were over but had they still been together i think i would have contacted him. i would just want to know where this mans head is at because your husband life could be in danger.
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I would talk to him. he deserves to know what you may have to tell him.
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Check with an attorney....

If ok, GO FOR IT! I contacted the OW for the first time and we talked. It was all good.
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The "no contact" is for her. You should talk to him. Give him only the facts. He deserves them. Why would we intentionally let another person live a painful lie when they seek the truth. Just be compassionate and polite.
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Talk to him.
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