I know that no one can answer this question for me, but neither can I. I just found out LAST NIGHT that my wife of 7 1/2 years (together for 11) has been cheating on me with an old high school boyfriend (10 years ago). She had been distant from me for the past month and kept saying that she doesn't know why she's so screwed up. I knew something was up but she said there was not another man. Last night I found an email she sent to a friend that explained that "it is more than just the sex. I feel more connected to him now than I ever have". I am feeling absolutely crushed. I feel embarassed, betrayed and depressed. I am so angry I don't know what to do. Four years ago, we had split up for 9 months where she moved into an apartment to sort her life out. We stayed in contact and were in counseling during that period. We ultimately got back together once we realized we wanted to be together forever. We had both learned a lot from that and promissed to communicate more openly with our feelings. Obviously, we lost sight of this and here we are. When I confronted her and she finally admitted to sleeping with him not once, but twice, I wondered what I had done to deserve this. I love this woman with all of my heart and while I know I'm not perfect, I have tried to be a good husband. While she was still determining what she wanted, after last night she was frantic, stating she'd do anything and wanted to be with me and only me. I can't help but to wonder if it's just that she's afraid and would be embarrassed if everyone knew. How can I trust her when she has hurt me so bad? To make things worse, we have a 1 1/2 year old son who means everything to me. I want to do what's best for my son, as well as myself. I have come to this forum because I don't want to talk to any family because they would instantly judge my wife and I'm not ready to hear people say these things about her. If we did work things out, her relationship with them would never recover. It was difficult with the family when we were apart for the 9 month stretch. Any advice/support is desperately needed.
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