Two years ago (May)My husband told me he had been having an affair with his shop secretary for 3 years. He only came forward because her husband knew and he was going to out the situation to me if my husband did not come forward. He said they never expressed love in words, however, he did state that he did think about making a life with her and her kids. After I yelled and screamed and pushed him around the yard, I went to confront her. I saw her or spoke to her almost everyday for 3 years. she said there was no love and she was not leaving her husband. My husband and I have been trying for the past two years to make it work. I feel, me more than him. Anyway, the other woman was his sister-in-law's neice. That is how she got the job in the first place, I went to have our baby and my sister-in-law slid her in my place. Anyway, the sister-inlaw and her 3year old granddaughter were killed in a very horrible accident in August 2007. It has literally crushed our entire close-nit family. We all live on a 100acre farm. OUr own little community. So he says, his brother and sister-inlaw were part of the reason he and the other woman became so close, they talked often of the relationship they were having difficulty with. You see, his brother is more like his father (20 years his senior) Anyway, this death in the family has hurt my husband in such a way that he is having a hard time not being able to talk to her about the nightmares he has and the difficulty of dealing with the loss. I found out he has been browsing her myspace account from the computer history at his work. I am afraid to snoop any deeper into cell phone bills, etc, but I am afraid not to. He says he is not going anywhere and he loves me, but he said he loved me during those three years. I don't know what to do. I am sorry this is so long, but I have to give a detailed description to our complication. I love him so much, but I cannot live life like this. Upset, crying, paranoid, angry. I have a 5 year old daughter who is also noticing the strain on our relationship. Anyone have advice?
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