
Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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I came to DS searching for a life raft..I have remained fairly uninvolved but sourced allot of insight and understanding from reading posts ect..recently after reading every-ones thread on a discussion topic, I added a small comment about the cheater being selfish and so did many others. What followed was me being told I am on my high horse and to get over myself and that my 'DAMNATION' was not welcome. Another said I was offering 'condemnation'.. jwilder put herself out there and told her story and i offered my opinion..How does both sides of the fence meet on a common ground..ds? It seems other people can say the same as i did and even harsher comments but i have been picked on for a few simple words that i believed to be true. I'm wondering is this a case of no comments from NEWBIES? I not once condemned anyone or threw damnation around..they are strong words and accusations. I sit on NO high horse and do not need to GET OVER MYSELF I'm not perfect,never once said i was! I'm just a person going through something really painful and I'm also been watching my kids go through pain..NEVER have i cheated and NEVER will i cheat. I know the devastation that it causes but yes it has made me critical of people who do cheat and I do believe them to be selfish and I make no apologies for that. I would like to say thank you to all that have offered friendship and support and to say good bye.
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you camt to ds for a reason and that I believe is to get support for what has been done to you.. so I say stay and post what you need support on.. I myself get so pissed by the poor me cheaters..now that isn`t refering to the cheaters who are here to get advice and feel remorse for what they have done.. I mean the cheaters who are just looking for validation for what they did and then get pissed and throw around the judging comment when someone doesnt give them the pat on the back that they are wanting..
my advice would be to post your thoughts and concerns on what you need and just stay away from the poor me cheaters posts ...its hard but thats what I do as I have nothing constructive to say to them anyways... there are good people here at ds that have been through alot and are here for you ...Take Care of YOU
the guy was a troll
the things he said were meant to make people angry, and offend for no more purpose than to get a rise
he was smarter than most, in that he chose a topic where it was almost like battlelines being drawn.
please don't go
you are here to get help, and to help others
besides, i believe that somebody has reported him, and if he comes back, i will report him too
1: to declare to be reprehensible, wrong, or evil usually after weighing evidence and without reservation
Maybe we all just need to choose our words better. No doubt, we are ALL in a LOT of pain, but we shouldn't allow ourselves to take it out on one another. I agree, a few months ago, I was able to find help from people here, but no longer. I do not place blame on ONE particular person, either, but it upsets me when I see people doing that. Azari, I'm sorry if I offended you with my post saying that cheaters don't need our condemnation, but that's what I was seeing at the time. We are condemning cheaters without any reservation, instead of offering our help to them. No, I'm not saying they deserve sympathy - just helpful positive advice! I will check my messages from time to time, and I'd love to offer my help and support to those who might need it. I, too, want to thank those who have been supportive here! I hope all of you take good care of yourselves!
Jimbo - you're the only troll, and you look like one too...
Oops - I've already called you out... Quit trying to pick me up - I'm not interested in your advances.
Look, if you want to call me out, that's fine. I have a lot to say..
My point on the other thread is not to pile on someone who's down. The woman could be suicidal. She has kids. Did you ever think about the welfare of the family as a whole..? Probably not.
I could care less if my style doesn't mesh well with you people. I'm here to offer an unbiased opinion. Some of you have had bad experiences and you don't have a clear perspective, so you bash without thinking through the situation logically...
Bring it on if you want, but I'm not going anywhere.
Sorry. Not on this thread, too. Last word...I forgot he likes to have the last word.
This thread was started as a way to call me out, which is unfortunate. There's a lot of bitter, negative people in this forum.
I was simply trying to offer help to someone who's down and protect her somewhat from all the people who want to bash her.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not condoning her actions. She was clearly wrong and she screwed up big time, but she's got kids and a life ahead...
Beating people down after their mistakes is pretty low.
I do think you have good things to offer. You came in with both guns blazing and you didn't even know who you were shooting at. Since then, you've offered some nice opinions. I don't agree with all of them, but that's what makes a community interesting. We're not all going to think alike.
I may be mistaken, but I think the real reason you came to this forum was because you were ready to have an affair because you're not happy in your marriage. I'm sure you'll correct me if I'm wrong. Several people responded to you and you seemed to change your mind about that. So, were you not just a tiny bit defensive when you started to post on the first thread? I don't remember exactly what you said, but you seemed to indicate that there were reasons that people are unhappy and cheat. You said the thing about glass houses. You were pretty much on the attack, at least from what I read. And you didn't know what any of us had been through.
I completely agree that when people are hurting, they don't need to be attacked. I don't know that there are a lot of bitter people here. I do know there are a lot of hurting people. I don't think you really know what that feels like because you haven't experienced either side of it. That doesn't mean that you don't have good things to offer. But, until we learn more about you, then what you say will probably be taken with a grain of salt.