After 28 years of marriage I discovered my husband was a sex addict and had maintained a secret life for 17 years. He had completely compartmentalized that part of his life to the point I had absolutely no clues, there were no behaviors I ignored or subtle signs of cheating. He started with pornography and masturbation, progressed to online porn, chatting, and finally meeting women. The depth of this betrayal was devastating but I understood from the onset that it had nothing to do with me. In fact, during this secret life we had an intimate relationship both emotionally and physically because of his ability to mask his lies with 99% truth. With the help of a phenomenal therapist, we have managed to stay together for the past 4 years since the disclosure. It certainly hasn't been easy and we take it a day at a time, not knowing if our marriage will survive. I would like to find other people with a similar experience of having no signs until they discovered the betrayal a betrayal that continued undiscovered for such a long time. I feel very alone in this experience.
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