Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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I have been with my partner for just under 6 years. 2 years ago he slept with a woman while we had split up for 2 weeks. We got over it after a couple of months (I never trusted him really after that) and I have now found out he is sleeping with 3 others & joined an "alternative" porn dating site. I kicked him out but I really do hurt & he's admitted he's gutted. This has only just happened & I may now lose my house. He claims that I'm the best thing that's ever happened to him, loves me more than anything else in the world and says he doesn't know why he does these things to hurt me because he loves me. Is he sick? I think he needs therapy but am I deluded and just making excuses for him? We got on so well and he has done this to me. The final straw. Anyone there with the same problems that can give me any answers or advice?
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i hear ya. i know exactly what you are going thru. he does need therapy. he needs to learn why he is doing these things. it is putting you in danger of catching STDs. if he says he loves you so much, why does he need to be chasing other women. be very careful. he will continue to lie to you for as long as he can. take a stand now. you need to be in control of your future, dont let him ruin your life forever. take care and stay strong.
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Easterner,
I have little doubt that you are the best thing that ever happened to him. Is HE the best thing that ever happened to you?

I understand your pain and am still living with the husband who betrayed me. Just do not make a definite decision until you have honestly answered that question for yourself. You do not have to decide immediately. Give it 6 months or a year even. Get yourself on your feet financially but know that you deserve someone who will be as good to you as you are to him.
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Thanks for the 2 different responses, very useful and helpful. He also has a sex addiction with porn websites although he's not doing much about what he receives. He does have an alternative dating site which he's joined which makes me rather uneasy after what I've seen. I have kicked him out & refuse to speak to him or see him as I am angry & hurting. He has sent me texts saying how sorry he is and it's only 2, as if that makes things any better! Not! i think it's hitting him now. Just seems to me that he can't differentiate between reality & fantasy but I don't know. Not got much experience with this type of thing but feel sick to the core!
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