My H will no longer talk about the A. If I bring it up he can't understand why I'm not over this after 5 months. He claims they had actual sex once and feels that was cheating. But as for the texting for almost a year, sending videos of himslef, porn and whacking off to their texting, and kissing-is not so much cheating to him. I told him I would no longer talk about this with him (which I know is wrong) and to leave me alone if I was upset. So the other night he found me crying and wanted to know what was wrong and I wouldn't tell him. So he got mad and turned and walked away then went back to bed & has not talked to me since. Where does he get off??? I did exactly what he asked, not talk about it. My councelor tells me by acting this way that he's not really ready to face all that he did. But it's the very thing I need to get over all this. His confession, the remorse, the apologizes, his compassion and support. He feels he has given all of this to me and thinks I'm at fault for us not moving on. GIVE ME A BREAK!!! How is it that he cheats then feels he can call the shots as to how I should heal?!? I'm loosing my mind!! I decided to stay and work on our marriage but he's making it EXTREMELY difficult!!! Any advice???
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