I am new here and just have been reading messages from others since I found out of my Husband affair back in December. Actually on my son's birthday and 3 days before Christmas. He is in the Army and stationed in PA and I am in FL for our son who has asthma and the cold weather triggers asthma attacks. He claimed that he started this affair because I abandoned him and and he felt lonely and unloved and she was giving him what he needed and telling him what he needed to hear since I would not feed his ego. Well, he promised to stop and dedicated himself to us and put in a transfer to FL to be with us. I started noticing that my husband became indifferent with me and would not call me as much or text me loving messages like he use to. He was secretive were he was and what he was doing. So, I called him mistress and she claim that she has nothing to do with him because he hurt her and she is working on her marriage. Well, I was able to obtain a very detailed statement of my husband's cell phone which shows that since the beginning of March he has been constantly calling and receiving call from her and hundreds of text message between them. That span hours and would end at midnight and start again as soon as they woke up. He claims since he is still in PA he got depressed and thought I didn't want him anymore and he started talking to her again. But outside of the indifference from him I was still trying to be supportive and show him how important he is to me and the kids. Now he is pleading with me to stay with him and want me to go to therapy with him because he is weak but he loves me and our two kids and wants to make things right and get help. I love this man deeply and I have been with him almost 17 yrs/ 12 yrs married and he is a wonderful father to our children. But I don't know what to do. He promised back in December he would end this affair and move on but he started again in March. I spoke with him mistress in December and she told me that she didn't want to continue this since she hurt me and my kids and she would tell me if he tried to reach her but she lie to me. I don't know if I can trust my husband again. I gave him a chanse and now he wants a second chanse. He started seeing a therapist a few weeks ago and he wants us to start marriage counseling together. I need advice from someone who doesn't have an emotional investment in either of us. What should I do? What would you do?
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