Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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deleted_user
deleted_user
i just caught my husband cheating.i put a tape recorder in his car and heard cell phone conversations,Saying "I wish i could pack my stuff and be with you that would make me happy"now that he might loose us he says he wants to work things out.And i think he is done with her.How do i trust again?
Thriver
Thriver
You should read around the site. It takes a lot for a person to trust again and even if they really try, sometimes it does not work. It depends on what type of person you are, how your H handles it, and the nature of the cheating.
I think that the fact that he got caught, rather than confessing, is not as good a sign as it would be if he had realized on his own that the affair was a bad thing.
Also, people have found that what they discovered was the tip of the iceberg.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thriver is right in many ways. I though my H's online friends were just that. Now i've learned that our year apart due to jobs was the first time he cheated on me...
How do you know he's ended it? Does he work with her? If not you could easily watch in type up a firm e-mail saying he's chosing you instead of her and that the relationship is OVER. Or sit next to him when he calls. If he fights you on this tell him that for your sanity you need to KNOW it's over by being there. If he claims it's an invasion of his privacy tell him that he's forfitted it since he cheated. Then... marriage counseling!!!!! Good luck
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