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Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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Can we get past my stupid mistake??????

deleted_user
deleted_user
I am only 18 and I am desperate for advice from anyone.
I cheated on my boyfriend of two years. It was a one night stand a horrible mistake that I would give the world to take back. BUT I CANT. I know this and I am trying as hard as I can to fix this. My boyfriend Alex is an amazing person and it kills to know that I hurt him so bad. I am willing to lose evrything to fix us. It's like one minute we are working it out and the next we're falling apart. My life has been an emotional roller coaster and I have the weight of the world in guilt on my shoulders. Without judging me or calling me names (thats what has happened in other places) can ANYONE tell me how and if we can get through this. We are both so young and we have the rest of our lives ahead of us. I don't want what we have to be over because of this stupid thing I did.
please I am desperate for advice. I just cant lose him.

thanks
whatknot
whatknot
I hate to say this. Just ask for Gods forgivenes and let it alone.
No one will be hurt and move on with it.
Best of luck
deleted_user
deleted_user
Does your boyfriend know? I think looking at it from the cheated on view ( my husband had 3 affairs) I would have given anything for him to have told me instead of the way I found out. If he leaves he leaves it's better to be honest with him NOW. Cause he can always leave if he finds out in 2 years then it will be compounded with the fact you lied to him for that amount of time too. GOOD LUCK...
deleted_user
deleted_user
You're right - there will always be people to say hateful things to you, but no one can live with that for the rest of their lives. No matter if you're 18 or 80 we have to be able to start over. If you're not a person that wants to continue this behavior the rest of your life, then you'll be fine. Do whatever it takes to make yourself a good and trustworthy person again. You can only express your remorse to your bf - nothing more. He has to decide if he will accept it. What else is there to discuss? You're not blaming him for what you did. It was a horrible choice on your part. Tell him as terrible as it is, this is where we're at and this is what I'm willing to do in the future. If he wants to continue badgering you about it - that won't stop. Tell him you need to know all thoughs going thru his head. If he wants to hurt you back then thats a bad vicous circle to go into.
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