My husband and I met when we were 39 and after a short courtship moved in together for 5 years and have been married for 14 years. He is a very kind gentle man that has helped me with my children and very giving in every way. He always seemed very happy and went with the flow of a busy family. The kids were teens when we met, and now are married and we have 7 grandchildren. We have a wonderful house, a large retirement fund that I contributed half, a large circle of friends. I thought I had the perfect life - until last July when he confessed to a 8 year affair with his ex-wife (she cheated on him and they divorced because of it) and a fling with someone that worked for him (sleeping with her twice but continued to see her for coffee, lunch and many calls). His ex-wife lives in Phoenix and he would call her 10 - 25 times a month and spend weekends with her every 2 - 4 months in various cities. He was out of work for 5 of the last 8 years and said he was depressed and acted out. He is remorseful and is in therapy 2 times a week. He is trying hard to make the marriage work - but I am having a hard time accepting the many lies and betrayal. He is not the person I thought he was and we don't have the life I thought. How can I forgive him?
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