I was very depressed before my ex and I seperated. Mostly because of the mental abuse and other things he was doing to my family. He belittled my children and me and didn't even want my children around when he was home. He was even jealous of me and my cat. I had to reach the point where I had to tell him that being around him was like being under a dark cloud. And that's exactly how I felt. This is the man that I committed adultery with and married. But the depression got a little worse after I made him leave. Mostly because I really and truly loved him and was crushed because of the price I had paid to be with him. But I got over the initial shock of that when I realized how much bette I felt without him. He was a pessimist and always complaining and griping. I'm not like that. So I got better after a while. I still have depression and still medication for it. But my depression is different without him in my life. He made my depression worse.