What makes a man in a long term marriage decide that he is no longer attracted to his wife? Isn't there supposed to be something deeper there? Caring, respect, do men just base all on the attractiveness of their spouse? Seems that after his infatuation all caring, all respect, all attraction and any other feeling just went out the window. Was it that he had younger and passion again and just could not go back? I am no dog but i'm not 35 like the OW. But i am funny (used to be anyway) caring, spontaneous, a good partner and wife and mom, good job, is different better in the man's eyes. The nerve of the stbx to tell me "you are still a good looking woman" you'll find someone. I guess it's the same train of thought when he told my son, "I know this sucks but you'll get over it, lots of kids have divorced parents.....he's way beyond that now of course couldn't give two cents about me and has become a drive by dad. So sad that this man was once the love of my life. I don't know him. i can honestly say i don't want him as he is today. I just miss who we used to be. I guess his new "we" makes him happy enough. I know i can move on but i am having extreme anger issues. Just listening to someone talk about him and some work that he did for them and i also was there helping him just brought more thoughts back to me. I always helped him with side work and jobs when he needed a hand. i was a good mate. He was the one who was not. I have to remember that.
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