Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Has anyone here been married to a serial adulterer - someone who has had more than 1-2 affairs over the course of years - chosen to stay and now has a successful happy marriage? My husband says he loves me, he says he is changed now that he's gone back to church, he says this last one was because he was worried about my health problems, afraid to talk to me and needed someone to talk to so he called an old friend from his old job. She came to see him and it escalated into a physical relationship because I was so depressed about my health I'd basically shut him out. After the physical aspect started, because he needed the comfort, he found himself confused. He cared about her as friend, but he says he confused it with love, although he swears he never told her he loved her. He says now he knows he never really loved her, he was just hurting and needed someone. I told him I was hurting and scared too and that's what makes his actions worse than any time before. My husband has had several sexual flings and four "romantic" relationships in our 22 years. I just don't know what to do this time. I have a lot to lose if I leave him and I ache when I think of putting my kids through a divorce. Am I a fool? Is there any chance at all? Has anyone here finally made it work? Last night he told me he is at peace in his heart for the first time in years because he knows in his soul that he won't cheat again. He has been very remorseful and has opened up with me more than ever before. He's cried a lot and says he wants to help me to trust him again, he wants to be my lifeline that I can grab when I'm drowning. I know he says he's disgusted with his own actions but I can't help wondering how sincere he is. Ive heard a lot of these things before. The only difference is he has come back to God and to church. We are in counseling and working on a dialogue program we learned in a Retrouvaille program through our church. He says he feels better than ever about our relationship because now we are talking and he knows how to communicate with me, although he still says he doesn't know how to pull me out of my depression. He understands now, though, that he can't pull me out of my depression. Only I can do that. Just like the only one who can decide to love me and be faithful to me is him. I can't do it for him. I am having a really hard time with this on top of everything else going wrong in my life. Am I stupid to try and go forward and give this at least 3-6 months in counseling before I make any decisions about staying permanently or leaving? I've been with him since I was 17 and I'm 42 now. I don't know how to be with anyone else. I don't know how to start over again and I have so much to lose. Can anyone help me with some advice or just tell me they made it work? Has anyone just ignored the affairs, like Hillary Clinton maybe, and stayed because leaving would have cost them too much? I don't want to be a married single. I think I still love him, but I love the man I married who pops up once in a while, not this man who made a lifetime out of lying and deceit. Can he go back? I know you don't know him so you can't really say. I'm just so utterly confused I don't know what to do.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
You are not there yet. You see the door, but you just can't free yourself to walk through it. 1st thing is first. Stop fooling yourself. Your kids are not stupid. Your kids can sense the unspoken. Even if you never fight in front of them, they know. My father cheated on my mother. She never told us and he never said anything but we knew. It humiliated us. I would have preferred that my mother stood up for herself. She would have taught me that no man is worth any pain and she would have taught me how to grieve properly for a lost relationship.
I've stayed in an abusive relationship for 6 years because my mother only taught me how to endure pain - not how to escape it with dignity and self respect.
I don't give a damn if he found god or church. That still doesn't remotely address his selfishness. He has no idea how to cope with things when they get hard. Only you can decide when you are ready. But it sounds like you need to say goodbye to the memory of the man that was once your husband.
He is gone and I'm truely sorry for your loss. Especially at this hard time. You will get through this.
flash forward 10 months and we are starting to date again he worked on his issues on his own time without my support.. told the slut he was done with her( i seen him do it)by himself without even knowing we were going to possibly get back together..
I am finally starting to see the man I fell in love with originally peak through it took a major smack across the head(literally and figuratively) for him to wake up and realize...
our anniversary is in a few weeks it will be our 13th and who knows we might actually make it... not as a living together couple but as a now dating couple...
it has been and continues to be a hard long road but might actually be some light at the end of the tunnel..
the most importang thing is to Take Care of YOU