My husband has had two affairs that I know of. He has also done other stuff to destroy the heart of his wife and to destroy this marriage. However, my question has to do with affair number 2. They still work together. He seems to think I should forgive and forget but I can't. Each year they draw for gifts and if he got her name he brought it home to me to purchase her a gift. He could have easily swapped with someone else but no, we have to buy the gift. Do you know how it feels to go with your husband to pick out a gift for his ex-lover with him knowing her likes and dislikes. I call at work and when she answers I have to ask "her" to talk to my husband. When I had surgery last year she sent me a darn get well card. I confronted husband about it and his reply well you should be thankful no one else sent you one. insert long list of obscenities. I went to his office after I left for a couple of weeks sorta a shock factor and on his desk were two ceramic monkey's I asked him where did that come from his answer well there is a reason they are here, I did not want to hurt you and bring them home. So he is displaying a gift from her on his desk. He wants me to be happy about it. I am sorry I am just not there yet. So how do I get over this affair when it still slaps me in the face on at least a weekly basis?
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