Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I just found out that my boyfriend of a year, cheated on me throughout the entire year. That said, I did see the signs (condoms in his bag, not coming home at night) but he always had a very reasonable excuse for them. I never thought not to trust him.
We broke up because he was confused (and I didn't know about the cheating yet). I moved away to a different city because of a job. Since then, he has done a 180, is planning our future and wants to move here to be with me. In order for us to "move forward" in our relationship, he told me of his cheating past to put everything on the table so that we could start this new relationship with a clean slate and complete honesty. How do I do this? I'm so in love with him and can't imagine us not together, but I'm so confused as to how to work this out with him knowing that I will have so many trust issues.
I have a counseling appointment in a couple days to discuss with a professional. The part that's difficult is that he's still in a different city but is more than willing to come up for couples therapy. He has great faith that we can work and loves me and wants to be honest with me. I just don't know what to even think because this is all very new to me.
We broke up because he was confused (and I didn't know about the cheating yet). I moved away to a different city because of a job. Since then, he has done a 180, is planning our future and wants to move here to be with me. In order for us to "move forward" in our relationship, he told me of his cheating past to put everything on the table so that we could start this new relationship with a clean slate and complete honesty. How do I do this? I'm so in love with him and can't imagine us not together, but I'm so confused as to how to work this out with him knowing that I will have so many trust issues.
I have a counseling appointment in a couple days to discuss with a professional. The part that's difficult is that he's still in a different city but is more than willing to come up for couples therapy. He has great faith that we can work and loves me and wants to be honest with me. I just don't know what to even think because this is all very new to me.
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Today is my 25th birthday, to my somewhat lack of surprise I can see already no one really seems to care. I've always been the kinda person to make sure that everyone I Care about feels appreciated and knew somebody had their back. I can count 4 times this year when I Went out of my way to make sure a "friend" felt good on their birthday, especially if they got left hanging. Its early in the...
But, if you're serious about this and he's serious about this, then who am I to say it won't work? My wife cheated on me over a year ago. I found out about it when she told me about 10 months ago. I've had a lot of counseling and we are going to couple's counseling now. It is very hard to build back up the trust and to develop intimacy once something like this has happened. But, it can be done. My wife and I are on the road to recovery. It takes a lot of patience and a lot of working at it. It sounds like he may be ready to do that. I guess you'll just have to decide if you can. I wish you all the best as you decide.
GIVE HIM A CHANCE TO REDEEM HIMSELF BUT MAKE IT REAL CLEAR TO HIM WHAT YOU WANT AND WHAT YOU EXPECT. AND LET HIM KNOW THAT IF HE EVER HURTS YOU AGAIN THAT HE HAS NO MORE CHANCES AND, AND MEAN IT. BUT PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE KEEP YOUR EYES WIDE OPEN AND PAY VERY CLOSE ATTENTION. NEVER UNDERESTIMATE WHAT YOUR MATE IS CAPABLE OF. YOU COULD NOT HAVE PAID ME TO BELIEVE THAT MY HUSBAND WOULD NOT ONLY CHEAT BUT MAKE A BABY. HANG IN THERE AND STAND FIRM.