
Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
For instance, i was hanging out with a girl and some of our friends once, she took me aside, and basically started hitting on me, i told her that i couldn't, because i was in a very loving relationship with my SO(her pics are in my profile)... and when i got home that night, i immediately told her what happened, and i decided, before even mentioning it to her, that i was not going to be seeing her without my Other around.
Now, i have a few female friends that i consider family, and i am not attracted to them in "that" way... maybe i am wired different than most guys... but they truly are my best friends. But if any of them try a move on me... then i will have to do the same with them... at best, and if they insist on the trying to tempt or woo me... then, even though i will hate to do it, i will kick them to the curb, because even though they are really good friends... my Kim is much more important to me
That is how MH affair stated... They were friends at work... She was his supervisor and he was helping her, because she had just come into his department... The flirting started and one thing lead to another...
Because of our problems in the marriage,
(my depression because of my mother's death, etc..) he thought that he could go outside our marriage and get his needs met... and I would never know...
Well, he didn't realize the terrible burden of guilt....
NO, NO never talk to the opposite sex and even at work don't share any personal details of your life....only work...
Women to women and men to men is fine, but not opposites, if you want to keep your marriage good...
When I learned of my H cheating-it started with emails (with a girl he was engaged to over 30 years ago). Learning this, I felt betrayed with this, alone. It went to phone calls (cell) to the eventual seeing one another. If this happened with a stranger met through some chatting room, I would have felt even more betrayed. I would feel he was looking for something/someone different.
BUT-I would think being involved with a chatting site and a person gives his/hers email address-there is some interest, of some kind. And I would be extremely upset when they give their phone number out. To me, anyways, shows a definite interest in having things go farther. In my eyes, this is unexcusable-absolutely no reason to-unless????
I have had many male friends that I had no, absolute, interest in, other than being friends. And, I don't encourage them to visit me when I'm home alone. I do this out of respect for my H and wouldn't like him doing this either.
I'm in total agreement with you. I don't have friend of the opposite sex. The men that I work with are strictly that. Co-workers. No outside contact! I feel that is the way it should be. I'm selfish and don't want to share my H with anyone (OW). I hope that he is beginning to understand that.
This having been said, my ex emotionally abandoned me. I am not sure if there were "male" friends in her social group, but I do know that she spent a HUGE amount of time with her "girlfriends". She turned to them for emotional support and to confide in them. She chose her female friends over me and our children. ANY friendship can detract from the married relationship if COMMUNCICATION between spouses is not placed at a high priorty and you are completely honest with each other. JMO