You lost your victims rights the second you lowered yourself to his level,, sorry, no sympathy from me!
Good luck, when the others see this post!

Sorry but you sound pathetic and needy.

NTRFR,
Your reaction to yourhusband's infidelity is understandable. It sounds as if he blind-sided you and you just went to the first place you could find for comfort.

You may find that running from your pain does not work for long though. Unless, you really dont love your husband, the pain will catch up anyway.

Please seek counseling and support other than this man. Men, as you know, are very fickle and he should not be the only person you can turn to, when the shock wears off and you begin to feel the pain.

Please continue to read and post here. There are many supportive people on DS.

so what about this other mans feelings...does he know that you are only using him till your H comes around and gives you the affection you want...

what do you want out of life...you need to look inward for comfort instead of looking for someone else to justify who you are

So your H cheats, and the first weeks after are awkward (as they usually are) and you run off and sleep with someone else, continually??? Yea my guess is that you and your "H" are over. For good. Teaching assistant and you've never heard 'two wrongs dont make a right???' Are you sure his initial mistake wasnt the way out that you've been wanting? Did you tell him how BUSY you've been?
Leave this other guy alone! He probably is half descent and by YOU going outside your marriage with him, its going to mess him up! You have a big enough mess to deal with, leave him out, and all other men!!
You should be looking @ fixing yourself right now, not your sex drive.
If it takes getting laid by a vertual stranger to make you feel sexy....you need a GOOD counselor b/c you have more issue than just a divorce.

ntrfrk - People's reactions to infidelity on these boards can be pretty harsh, and understandably so (considering how cheating has ruined so many marriages and lives); however, I know what it's like to make mistakes and to feel like a complete mess. So I'm not going to judge you.

I don't think the point should be who the victim is right now. If you and your husband want to be together, and want to work through this, then you need to seek counseling together. The key is, you both have to want the same thing. Counseling can help you both determine what you want, and how to go about getting it.

I haven't been a member here long, but I think the point of these boards is to support one another, not to bash one another, or to take sides ("cheaters" vs. "non-cheaters"). It takes guts to own up to your mistakes and to ask for help. So keep coming back and get whatever support you need in order to move forward.

That was smart!! Why would you degrade yourself?

im not commending you for what you did by any means... BUT i do think its about time some of these guys got a taste of their own medicine and im not goin to sit here and act as though i've never contemplated the idea of screwing with his head like that either.