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Am I naive?

deleted_user
deleted_user
Some of you have mentioned that my remarks may be somewhat naive regaridng my husband's behavior. My husband was nothing like he is now so I guess I can't believe what he has done. He has been having this affair since November and I just found out in Aprii. He didn't tell me-I had to figure it out. Since then he was home for one month and then moved into an apartment. He is still seeing this woman. He often makes remarks about coming home and wanting to do the right thing. Of course this gives me hope but his actions have not indicated anything positive in that direction. I love my husband and believe he and I could work through this and be happy. Is this possible or am I just naive?
Garrison
Garrison
Hope can be a dangerous thing. You wish for it to be a lifeline, but be very careful that you don't get yanked around by that lifeline.

This guy has to decide what he wants and then walk the walk. He really has to understand what the "right thing" is instead of dangling it as a possibility just to break your heart.

Naive? I don't know. We all want to be loved, especially after missing the familar "one" after being betrayed. There is nothing wrong with that.

I truly hope that you get a hapy ending out of all of this. I really do, I understand the rough place that you are in. Good luck!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Dont let him hurt you anymore than he has- tell him he comes home now or he never returns and the door will close. I think you have the right x
deleted_user
deleted_user
you have to do what works and what you beleive is best for you, but i must say even though my husband had a baby with his mistress had he left our home and started a relationship or moved in with his mistress, he would have nothing to say to me but "which account should i route your spousal support and child support checks too." there is no way in hell he could talk to me about coming back if he left me for her. to each his own, this is just how i feel.

i think you are too good to be treated this way and you defiantely deserve a man who will cherish you. take care of you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
He's looking for the best of both worlds and it is not fair to you. Look out for you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Please don't let him hurt you anymore. If he has been talking about getting back together with you but is making no concrete plans or showing any effort on his part to mend things then don't believe him. He wants his cake and wants to eat it too. He wants both of you. Please don't give him the satisfaction.
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