lol that would be interesting to know...

I would not sue the slut because I would just rather let her be ....she still tries to call here once in a blue moon and I just ignore the phone....

Oh, I wouldn't sue any of his paramours either, as I wouldn't want the whole world to know about what he did and I'm trying to forget them. However, I will admit that the sound of suing them and seeing the look on their faces in court would be extremely fun! :-)

I for one would sue. I would like to opportunity to inflict a life long pain of knowing the OW would always wish she never messed with my family.

This will make you laugh.

I read on an another infidelity site were a woman did sue the OW for breaking up her marriage. After a bunch of legal wrangling, they finally settled out of court. And the OW lost. Her punishment: for every birthday of the betrayed wife's 3 children, every major holiday, every (what would have been) anniversary - days that would have been shared with wandering husband, the OW has to mail the betrayed wife a check for $1. The betrayed wife has the pleasure of deciding how long to enforce the ruling. I assume the reasoning behind it is so that she will never ever forget the havoc she wreaked in the life of the betrayed wife. I'm not even sure if this is true or just the fantasy of a hurting woman, but in the grand scheme of things, know it sure makes perfect sense to me.

i live in north carolina and i can tell ya that these suits can be won. i am sure there would need to be a lot of money involved to get any attorney to take a case such as this. i have a friend who sued the other woman and she won a 1 million lawsuit against this woman. this care was tried in the courts in charlotte nc about 3 years ago. the other woman was just a real golddigger but she finally got this man to marry her and right at this moment she is sitting there waiting for him to die. the man was also a well known local attorney and he and his wife were married over 50 years. this golddigger comes along while this man is in the early stages of dementia and steals him away. the wife sues her with the help of her attorney daughter and attorneys in charlotte nc and wins her suit. now it gets more strange. this other woman breaks off with this man after she is cited to pay the wife this million dollars. she tells the man that the only way she will marry him is if he pays the wife this million dollars for her and he does. the wife also got another 7 million from all the assets they had together. see there was a lot of money involved in this case so it was worth the effort. this other woman might as well have a big "S" for scarlet woman carved in her face. she is well known in this area for what she is!! she deserved is all as far as i am concerned. wish i could have sued myself but my husband was just small potatoes, and in more ways than just money, ha ha

I would liek to sue Hooters and Christies Cabaret in a class action law suit..any takers??? These woman know who the married men are and still they give out there phone numbers and meet them for "lunch". HA! I am half way serious about this....

I would like to sue adultfriendfinder.com! Anyone with me on that one? It's how my husband met his whores.

MELLISSA
ADULT FRIEND FINDERS, I NEVER HEARD OF THEM UNTIL ds BUT THERE WHOLE PURPOSE IS TO BREAK UP MARRIAGES..MORE OR LESS ISNT IT? I SAY PUT UP A TOPIC ASKING THOSE WHOSE AFFECTION FOR THEIR HYUSBAND OR WIFE HAS BEEN ALIENATED TO LET YOU KNOW IF THEY AR INTERESTED, OF COURSE SOME STATES WOULDNT BITE, BUT SINCE IT IS INTERNET, I AM NOT SURE...
ANYWAY IF YOU GET SAY 20 PEOPLE OR MORE CONTACT AN ATTORNEY!

DEZIGNER
I DID NOT KNOW HOOTERS AND CABERET DID THAT? IS THAT A FACT? IF SO DO THE SAME, POST ON DS AND SEE HOW MANY BITES YOU GET.!
YES, LETS DO SOMETHING!

I'm curious about something. But first i need to make a disclosure. I was NEVER the OW. Never. Never. I was the betrayed.

Why is it that the OW is a whore, slut, etc? She stole your husband away? Essentially its HER fault? you konw what? Thats kinda crap if you think about it.

She has no allegence to you. She doesn't owe you anything. Think of it this way, Melissa1 and everyone else:

You are a married to a man lets call Paul. Paul and I meet at a party. I am the OW. I am single and Paul flirts with me. I flirt back. Paul asks me for my number, I give it to him. Lets say for the sake of arguement that I learn that Paul is married. Yet Paul continually persues me like Tiger chasing after a Giselle. Its not my responsiblity to make sure your husband doesnt' stray! I don't owe you anymore than you owe me. I don't know you from a can of paint...why should I tell your wayward husband to f-off? If I choose to get into a relationship with him...there are 2 willing parties. Its up to your husband to say, "You konw what? I'm sorry. I'm married, I can't be involved with you."

I am not a whore. I am not a slut. I am just a woman trying to find happiness. Your husband has a responsibilty to the commitment of the marriage. NOT ME!!

When my boyfriend cheated and ended up knocking her up...I didn't blame her. Not once. Not even for a second. That was HIS fault. 100% his fault for cheating. It was 50% MY fault for not taking care of his needs at home so that he was happy and content to stay put!

Wow...I'm just not sure we're on the same wavelength here. It takes two to have a marriage, and it takes two to have an affair. You don't think the OW/OM did anything to wrong us? The ONLY way I could agree with you on that one is if the cheater didn't tell them that they were married. My wife's OM knew me. He taught our children. He knew exactly what he was doing. And, you should have seen the look on his face the day he saw me in the parking lot. He almost passed out. Why? Because he wronged me in one of the worst ways possible.

There are plenty of people on here who were under the impression that their marriages were wonderful. They were meeting their spouse's needs. Their spouse just wanted something extra on the side.

My wife and I didn't have a wonderful marriage. Neither one of us was meeting the other's needs. But, I didn't have an affair. Not all men fit into the neat little categories of a book. Neither do all women. We don't all have the same characteristics nor the same needs. Yes, many people have misplaced anger. The cheating spouse is the betrayer. But, so is the other person. They are DEFINITELY part of the blame game if they knew at any point in the affair that their partner was married.

I can see the point where it took two to have the affair and both are responsible. I have another question too though. Would the revenge of a suit and payment of money make you feel better? Really? Somehow that seems sad to me. To me as a christian I keep reminding myself that God said "Vengence is mine. I will repay." Then He also says we need forgive those who sin against us. Not just once, as I reminded yesterday, but seven times seven. Now that's a huge task but one that should take a lot of time and energy to attemopt. The cheater is 100% selfish for having cheated. Must we return that with selfish need for revenge? I can't answer that myself but I know that is human but also not what God tells us to do. It is worth thought, don't you think?

Yes. I wouldn't sue. I was responding to the previous post and not the original one. In my experience, taking revenge does nothing but make me feel worse.

I assumed that was the case for you. I was honestly trying to open up the thoughts to those who would consider revenge of suing.

Okay. Just for the sake of debate...which I love: What do you think of suing, not out of revenge, but trying to get the attention of a chronic cheater? It might be a way of getting the point across that cheating is wrong. If the monetary settlement is only a dollar for every birthday or anniversary, then you would get nothing out of it, anyhow. Do you think such suits could be used to get through to a person who won't see it any other way?

I wouldn't actually sue her as she's in debt anyway. I do blame my husband for his responsibility in the affair; however, I blame the OW as well. I met her, talked to her. She wasn't just some woman trying to find happiness who didn't even know the wife. We'd met. I even prayed for her when she was afraid she might have cancer in the other breast (she previously had a mastectomy due to cancer). I didn't tell her this, but my husband was around when I prayed and he told her. She wrote me a card thanking me and saying we should eat lunch together sometime. (She got good results - did not have cancer in the other breast). So, I was actually more surprised that the OW could sleep with my husband than I was that my husband could sleep with another woman. I actually thought she had integrity.