Yes, I would sue her.

It seems that a lot of us living in NC have or are condisering AOA lawsuits. Considering that the affair produced a child, you may also want to consider 2 charges. One for alienation of affection and one for Criminal Conversation.

The AOA lawsuit you do not need to prove they had sex. Only prove that prior to the affair there was love of some sort in your marriage and the OW willingly and knowingly got involved with a married man and as a result it has damaged or destroyed the marriage.

The Criminal Conversation lawsuit you HAVE to prove they had sex. Since the affair produced a child, seems like you have all the prove you need.

As far as being worried over taking money away from her kids, just because you sue and MAY win, doesnt mean that you will EVER see any actual money from it. If you are suing hoping to get rich, I would say do not sue. If you are suing to make her accountable for her actions and let her know that she picked the wrong family to mess with, I say, SUE HER.

I have and still am thinking about this. I would not sue if I were looking for money.

Money wont change the facts, money wont take away the fact that this affair produced a child.

I am considering it because I KNOW this OW picked the wrong family to mess with.

I'm curious about this AOA stuff. If you win your case, what do you get? I live in SC. How do I find out if we have that law? I would love to get that bitch! Sorry....I'm ok now.

check state laws.............there's only a small handful that honor that law.

just a friendly suggestion.

Wow, considering her past and having all of her children from different men, this doesn't sound like the first time to me. She's sorry? oh really. I would sue her just because of the info you gave on her and how it can be used to show she has obviously done this type of thing before.

You're right. It's not fair to her children. That's exactly why you should sue her. She will continue to hurt those kids over and over again. They need a better mother. She needs to be stopped.

By the way, is your husband paying child support to this woman? If so, she probably has a little income coming in from all the kids' fathers. She has her little scam going. So, this needs to be stopped, too. Maybe the other wives will want to join in on your lawsuit.

thank you all so much, just what i needed to hear. i will not do it for money but even if she is ordered to pay me, good for her.

steph-yes you have this law in your state. go into your keyword and just put the words "alienation of affection" in or even "criminal conversation". but if my memory serves me correctly s.c. does have this law.

tictocdoc. yes he pays support but it is not court ordered. that is one reason i was just considering it because i'm just afraid that because of how many children she has, she will get lots more from him if she sues him. yes she has her little scam down packed. too bad my husband was so stupid that he gor her pregnant. i stay at home with our son and i told him that i will not go to work to take care of his illegitimate child. so if he has to work 6 jobs to support all of us than so be it. at least i know he won't have time to be up in anyone else's bed!!!!

sapphire-yes she is sorry alright. she is a piece of trash. what's sad is my stupid husband saw something in her. maybe because of all the kids he figured she was easy? don't get me wrong i am not bashing anyone who has multiple kids but it looks pretty bad when you have 4 by 4 different men.

thanks to you all. make it a great day.

just a quick question how come shes a bitch and whore and hes just stupid????

she is a whore and a bitch because she got involved with a man, married man and she knew he would never be hers (her words not mine)she is whore and a bitch because she got pregnant to trap the very same man who she knew would never be hers in an attempt to make him hers(her words not mine)she is a whore and bitch because she instead of looking for a man to love her and all her kids, she chose one who just used her. he is stupid because he was thinking with his DICK instead of his BRAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i don't know anyone here on this site and i am not here to judge any of you, but the woman who my husband was involved with in my opinion is a WHORE AND A BITCH and my husband is stupid. thats just my situation.

SHE IS NOT THE ONLY ONE THAT WAS A WHORE AND BITCH , SO IS HE

There is a movie that airs regularly on Lifetime and LMN called "Price of a Broken Heart". It depicts a Burlington, NC woman named Dot Hutyelmeyer (do a search) and her alienation of affection suit. She won! The tramp that my husband carried on with for 4 years was born and raised in Burlington. Believe me when i say I could have sued her ass but she don;t have nothing. And just getting a judgement didn;t seem to be worth my time. I have a file of emails the exchanged, instant messages, recorded phone calls, you name it! He ended it in 2004 and is being the devoted husband he should have been all along, but I still have that file because the bitch STILL keeps contacting him trying to lure him back. I promised myself that the next time (God forbid) I would sue him and her. You do what you need to do girl. But don;t take this lying down or you'll never stand up for yourself. Sorry for any typos as I am not going to proofreed before I post - it's too damn late...:) Byt the by, Dr. Phils messageboards have been tremendously helpful to me just as this board has. Good Luck. Praying for you.

Forgot to mention I live in NC as well.

I NEVER SAID HE WASN'T A WHORE AND A BITCH ALSO. MY STATEMENT WAS ABOUT "THE OTHER WOMAN-NOT MY HUSBAND." I HOLD HIM 100% RESPONSIBLE FOR WHAT HE HAS DONE-BUT AT THIS TIME IN THIS THREAD I WAS TALKING ABOUT ,SHE IS JUST AS GUILTY AS HIM TO ME, BECAUSE SHE KNEW EXACTLY WHAT SHE WAS DOING.

THANK YOU BETRAYEDASWELL-I REALLY APPRECIATE YOUR SUPPORT.