i suggest you hang around here awhile, read some posts and see what happens to people when their spouse's cheat. it is heartbreaking. why couldnt you end one before starting the other? is your husband expendable? would you not care if you lost him and everything else? please help us ALL here at DS understand how you could make such a choice..

DIVORCE him now,,,why continue to cause him pain? Does he really deserve that?..You already just destroyed the marriage,,so just divorce..let him start over with someone he can trust.

She really doesn't want my opinion does she?

Yes of course it was great- stolen moments of false people on their best behaviour in a false environment- the grass is rarely greener- would he still care for you in 17yrs

You need to think about how you would feel is someone you trusted so much treated your feelings like they were no longer important.

Lies hurt, and they don't just hurt the two people in the relationship. Friends are affected, children are affected, and its just not right.

Wow,I want to know how your feeling icon is GOOD after you tell us that you cheated on your H????
Did you know that you could have a STD and endanger your H's health???
You need to WAKE UP!!!

I think you are crazy... Why would someone bring hurt on themselves and their whole family.... For a little pleasure for a week and throw again 17 years!! NUTS!!

You may have had problems in your marriage before, but you have real big problems now.

You're asking us what to do? You certainly had no questions about what to do when it came to cheating on your spouse of 17 years. Why bother having a conscience now? Do the right thing. Come clean about what you did and let the chips fall where they may. Put your big girl panties on and deal with the shit you created.

Excuse my language, but why in the fuck would you throw away 17 yrs of your marriage for someone who most likely has no morals. Unless you never told him that you was married. Women like you are the reason why men like me get our lives turn upside down. Tell your husband bc it's better that you tell him and not him finding out on his own. Honesty, respect, loyalty, faithfullness, etc... is the keys to a successful marriage. Without them there is no marriage. Just bc this is the only time you have done this doesn't make it right.

NEVER LEAVE THE ONE YOU LOVE FOR THE ONE YOU LIKE, BECAUSE EVENTUALLY THE ONE YOU LIKE WILL YOU FOR THE ONE THEY LOVE.
Since you have seem to already moved on. LEAVE.
nikolc made a GREAT point, read some of the posts on here......I think you've done enough to your husband; dont make him suffer anymore(even if he isnt aware YET he isnt stupid)than hes about to

I just ask you to switch positions with your hustband and pretend that it was him last week in that other city with another woman and then know that when he returned home that the was still thinking about that other woman. Be honest with yourself because if you can dig deep down and say that you would be ok with that then maybe you and your husband need to re-evaluate some things. But please before you do anything else I do agree with nikolc please end one thing before starting another regardless of whether that means ending it with that man who you spend that week with in another city to focus on your marriage or whether your marriage for this other man. You can't have your cake and eat it too especially when other's feelings are at stake

You have two choises:
1)Realise fully what you have done, come clean with your H, repent, beg & grovel for forgiveness and put 120% into the marriage to try to rebuild.

2)Either stay with H and carry on the affair, or leave H for the affair bloke. With this option you are on the fast track to living a miserable life. Lets face facts here. The truth will eventually come out. All guys generally despise an ufaithfull wife. You will have very slim pickings indeed in future boyfriends. In all likelyhood you'll be scraping the bottom of the barrel. Start looking for a nice trailerpark.

I just think I'm floored at the lack of conscience it would take to lay up in some motel with another man for an entire week. I think the question was answered before it was asked.

Let your husband know what has happened. Thank him for supporting and loving you for 17 years and leave him alone.

Go get together with your other man and settle down and be happy.

Your hubby will move on and his heart will heal in time.

You will end up being cheated on with the new guy, because he has the same moral make up that you do. You both can be happy, cheating and lying to each other!

Tell your husband !! If he EVER ment something to you ... DO IT NOW !! he has the right to know. if you loved him at any point in your relationship, WHY would you knownly cause him hurt and pain. HE WILL FIND OUT TOO, maybe not right away it was 14 yrs that my husbands 1st affair was confirmed. But the pain was still so serve it felt like it just happened.Think of your husband and family.