Hi I’m new here, and I really needed to speak to people outside of my family and friends that can maybe help me see perspective from another point.
My husband had an affair with an ex of his. He always told me she broke his heart and he couldn’t stand her. We’ve been together just over 6 years when the affair happened. He told me he was going to a concert with the guys and didn’t come home. I became a super detective when I awoke and found his location and went their to confront him! Apparently a mutual friend of theirs had passed recently and they re connected at the funeral. The Affair continued from there another month I found out this a few months later Into trying to make things work l! I was distraught he was ripping our family apart! It has been over a year now and we seemed to have grown a lot making changes fixing issues talking , listening to each other’s requests but there is still that bothering question that he never has an answer to , why wasent I good enough? Now everytime we’re out and see her( mutual friends of friends ) my mood comes crashing down. And all of it replays again in my head ! He wanted her and not me. I just don’t understand how I’ll ever move on if I keep having these thoughts. This has been a major issue for my self esteem and my overall mental health. I’m at my end. I just wish I could find a way to be myself again.
In 2011 I had an emotional affair with another women. I promised my wife it’ll never happen again. Low and behold 7 years later it had a full blown sexual affair. I broke my wife’s heart. I have a problem? Why am I so insecure in myself that I try to find someone to build me up when I have it at home. Please help me.
i never thought in a million years I would be here... i found and married the woman of my dreams. I’m currently in the military and when we met, she helped me with my PTSD i was suffering from my last deployment. I’ve been stationed overseas without her and i did the unthinkable. I drank too much and I cheated on my wife... I don’t know what to do. She was cheated on by her ex fiancé and...