I would really appreciate any advice from people who have been cheated on. I am the cheater who ripped my family apart and my husband's heart out. I would give anything if I could take back everything I did and make my husband's pain go away--it's killing me and I can only imagine how he feels. I have no one to blame but myself. My questions is, my husband found out about my infidelity last October and confronted me at the end of Novemeber. We have been sleeping in separate rooms and the marriage is barely surviving to say the least which I understand. He can barely look at me and can't stand me near him. He can't even hug me. I have wanted to go to counseling but he refuses (which he has that right), I immediatley broke off everything with the OM, have tried very hard to be a good wife, and went to counseling on my own for help. What do you do if they won't work on the marriage with you?? I really believes he thinks that because he is here that that is enough--that I should work on it alone. I have to admit that I have blown up over the last few weeks with him because I am so lost, frustrated and panicking on what to do which I know is the last thing I should do. He is even mad about me being on here but it helps me to hear what everyone has to say about how infidelity has hurt them--I think he thinks its for the cheaters which of course, its not. I definetley don't mind all my computer access being looked at, phone calls watched or anything else tracked--I deserve it. I am not hiding anything anymore, I do understand why the trust was lost because of my ex husband cheating on me. But, when do you know it's time to throw in the towel? Please look at my other postings for "my story". Thank you in advance for any advice!!
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