I have accepted the end of my marriage. i have accepted that he thinks that our marriage was lacking in something which he cannot put his finger on. i can accept the loss of my family life, the loss of my mate, that i must move on alone. For the life of me the thing i am having a hard time with is how he and she can go on like they are starting a "new life" together. OK out with the old and in with the new. Does it make the OW feel good knowing he left his wife and family for her? Does it make him feel good that he left his wife and family for her? he seems absolutely emotionless about it. No pain no gain? he has absolved himself of any guilt he may have felt in the beginning. He wishes me only happiness after months of turmoil. And he seems perfectly happy to forget all about a long term marriage that was even a good one in alot of respects. What am i missing? What am i failing to see. I am here doing an autopsy of the marriage and myself accepting some very painful truths about me and he just says that's the way it is now and moves on. Leaves me wondering if he is not more mentally healthy. He even says he is still a "good guy". Can anyone help me see thru this fog? is it denial? Am i still wanting to think he must have some shred of compassion for me which his actions and words don't show. He is excited to be done and excited about creating a future with the OW as she is with him. How do i accept that?
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