Ok here's the deal the last few days have been Hell! My husband finally FINALLY gave me the truth about his affiar after months of lies. When I first found out he made it out to be a one time thing. The reality is they had an emotional affair turned somewhat physical. She is also married with kids. This situation now seems so much more serious. I'm completely ruined all over again. I called her yesterday am just trying to see if I could get anything else out of her. I kept it short and sweet and held my own and then thanked her for talking to me (not saying how I really felt about her was really diffiult.) He basically said everything that he had. Here's whats really bugging me.... he told her I had cancer! How sick is that?! He told me he had to tell her that to get her to stop wanting to see him, umm how about just tell her your done, and he also said he was scared she would tell me about them so he told her that in hopes of guilting her into not contacting either one of us further. He also said she was just taking everything too far. The problem is I just feel like I'm in denial land. I don't know if this sounds right or not, ok it's not right but I'm wanting to contact her just once more to tell her I'm not a sick women, I don't have cancer I never have had cancer and I'm very healthy and functioning. Since he is obviously a compulsive liar I just thought this is my chance to maybe clear that up and maybe she'll throw him under the bus? OR maybe she is a freak and he really felt like that was the "safest" way to get her out of our lives. Obviuosly I think he is just playing us both to make it easier for him. What do you think? Would it hurt to contact her once more to tell clear this up? Don't you think someone would have a hard time telling the wife what really went on if you thought she was fighting cancer? It's all so sick!
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