I recently read The Divorce Remedy by Michelle Weiner Davis and in the chapter on coping with infidelity she describes a technique called "Think-stop" to help diminish negative thoughts that set you back when you are trying to recover. Whenever a thought about the affair creeps in you stop yourself and picture a big red stop sign and then mentally transport yourself to a peaceful, happier thought or a warm memory. When you think crappy thoughts, you feel like crap, so the idea is to remove as much negative thinking about the past as possible. I've been working on it this week and found it is helpful. I've cried a lot less and feel a bit better. It's no miracle, but every little thing that helps on this road is worth a shot!
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