In my H divorce papers with his ex wife they had that in the papers. No overnight guests unless they are family members. I will warn you that we got married faster than we would have because of that. At least you would know that she couldn't stay overnight while divorce is going on and if she did it would look bad on him in court.

I don't know much about divorce. My wife's parents divorced and her Mom hated the OW and did everything in her power to turn the kids against the OW- even after she became the step-mom.

I am not saying that having the OW spend overnights while the kids are there is OK. Parents set an example. He needs to set an example and so do you.

You need to realize that you do not have full control over who your daughter meets. Your soon to be X has rights as well. You know he is going to introduce the kids to the OW- and you can't stop it. Your daughter is going to be exposed to the woman who broke up the family and you can make it easier for your daughter or harder.

Please give your daughter permission to have fun with her father and the OW. She needs to know that she does not need to be your proxy in this war you are having with her father. You should encourage her to be respectful and loving. And that might mean backing up the OW in a 'parenting' decision one of these days.

Please don't drag your kids through the muck. Let them be kids.

I don't know, but I would certainly pursue it. Good Luck.

we have that in our temporary orders until my divorce is final and i'm sure we'll keep it in there. no way, no how will i allow my stbx to have overnight guests when mychildren are there. he has plenty of time to do that when he doens't have them. he doesnt' even get overnight visits with them. talk to your attorney and get it done !! it is called a morality clause. good luck !

My best friend was never married to the father of her child, but in the custody agreement, neither can leave the state and there can not be any overnights with the opposite sex unless they are family members. Now this is in the state of Illinois, I don't know what each individual state allows, but talk to your lawyer about it, unfortunately it will probably cause them to get married faster.

I had it in my temp papers as well, just remember it will count for you too, if you meet someone and one day want him to spend the night.....
maybe he will understand if you tell him, hey it is your daughter she does not know how to deal with it yet, can you give her some time....I know that is a long shot but just maybe he can not think about himself for a second..

i would look into that but if no judge has told you that they have to go over there i would not make them go. i would keep them home and let him fight me in court. if you have gone thru the courts and they say that he gets to take them over there then i would try to hire a family law attorney and see if there is anything you can do about your child not wanting to be around her fathers whore. your children should be able to spend time with their dad without her being around. my heart goes out to you because i can't even imagine what this must do to you. i have this feeling thou that this other woman will get real tired of him soon and that your children will not have to go there anymore-don't know why but i just have this feeling. i sure do hope i am right.

all my dealings with family court... they dont give a damn what the kids want or whats best for them.. We tried to reduce visitation with my ex, and all the judge did was ask the kids what they wanted for christmas.. and gave him more time cuz our divorce papers didnt have the "updated" visitation our wonderful courts think the ex deserves. My daugters b/f just spent 5 dys in jail contempt of court cuz his ex dropped the kids off on him.. he found out about abuse and neglect and sued for custody... so she counter sued cuz he had the kids (remember she gave them to him) she realized her child support would stop... judge would not listen to cps, principals, clergy, NO ONE until she got custody back and then he let him out of jail. This guy has never been in trouble with the law ever. But since divorce papers say she has custody, he didnt care about anything else. Im a teacher and I see everyday the problems kids face being sent back and forth when they dont want to go. Our court system sucks. They neeed to start worrying about kids rights not the ex... who is an ex for a reason... hope you can get it right for your kids... sorry to be negative on the family court system... just be careful and i will pray for you!

Simply sit him down, tell him that your child is having some underlying issues going on right now, that it is NOT in the best interest of the child to have overnight stays until you can get to the bottom of her issues. He'll want to protest this but make it clear to him that for one HE IS THE REASON that the kids security is on shaky ground, also lie and tell him that some of your friends have witnessed the child under duress and that if he can't put his differences to the side and allow you the time to address the issue with the child without him complicating it more by fighting this decision, then you will have to file a claim with the courts stating this is taking a mental affect on the child due to his insensitivety. Usually this will let them know that you are DEAD SERIOUS and they usually won't fight what it is your suggesting..because the courts FROWN UPON any FORM of devestation or DEPRIVATION of a child ECSPECIALLY BEHIND HIS PENIS ANTICS....They are tooo young to even try and understand what is going on here and frankly I want to baet you husband's ASS MYSELF...for the sheer lack of emphaty for his OWN FREAKIN kids.....honey do what you have to do QUICK...because I can PROMISE YOU...this type of garbage will surely screw those babies up...PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do something quick.....He should KNOW BETTER!!!!!

And just for the record...okay he wants to leave...fine...but the bottom line is...HE CHOSE TO LEAVE AND LIVE HIS LIFE SOMEWHERE ELSE....I would surely make a case against him that proves he's an unfit father....who in there right mind would even CONSIDER an 8 year old and an a 2 month old being made to spend time with a perfect freaking starnger all because he's screwing her...he needs to get real...HONEY get on that computer and start looking up laws in google search engine....and rip him a new one..cause he has REAL LIFE REALLY F----- UP!!!!!! Those poor poor babies.....