Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
To make a long story short my ex which I was for five years lied to me and my family making us believe that he was a divorced man.Two months ago his wife busted him with a second phone and everything came down.Then I busted him in his lies.He contacted me two weeks after that inccident, until I just didn't answer his calls anymore. This man hurted me and my kids as to his compulsive lies. My birthday was on the 13th of Nov. and he started calling me and passing by my job leaving hallmark cards, he called me on my birthday and he sent a bouquest of 24 long roses to my job. One week later he dropped off a 3 page letter telling me that he can't live without me that I am the love of his life. He mentioned he is with his wife because of his children, because his children tell him they won't speak to him again if he leaves their mom. Thanksgiving came and he called again. He tells me that I am the woman he loves that he is unhappy at home that he can't be one more day without me. He says so many things that now I wonder if I should let his wife know that he is NOT trying to work things out with her. I feel that if he was trying he would of not contacted me or keep doing what he is doing. I have all his recordings taped on a cassette and I have his cards written by him and signed by him. Should she know he is still trying to reach me or should I just leave it alone. I feel that she is living a lie, and that she thinks her husband is a saint. Should I pop her bubble?
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
I hope that you can stay strong and not cave to his pressure.
Good luck.
You KNOW how awful it is to be lied to for years and then to be blindsided by the truth. I believe that to tell his wife is the right thing to do.
She may call you a liar and even be outright rude and mean. Try to remember how much it hurt, when you found out and try not to take it personally.
If she does want to know, give her the name of the florist and date (s) of the days you freceived flowers. She can take it from there.
You are to be commended for not yielding to his manipulations. He may believe everything he says, but he hasnt got the faintest idea of what love really is. You are lucky to have gotton out, although you do not feel that way at the moment
You are a strong and moral person and I wish you every happiness...you deserve it!
Keep writing and reading DS, it is a great support group.
he is doing all this nice stuff for you but I can bet you( since my H did this the first time I found him cheating) that he is blaming you for chasing him, and that it is all your fault for tempting him and stalking him and stuff...
so I would just present her with the evidence and then walk away from her...
I also applaud you for standing your ground and not putting up with someone who doesnt want to put you first in their life