
Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Whatever you decide, remember that you do not need to decide RIGHT THIS MINUTE, but do not let this situation fester by any means.
Many of us here have been through situations like this. We all know how tough it is and how much it hurts. I am sorry that this happened to you but get what you can out of all the good people here.
Talking to him about it was a good idea. I hope that he can talk to you about it and be honest.
Hang in there.
This type of situation really sucks and there is no perfect way to deal with it, you need to do what you feel works for you. I would at least talk to him and find out what the heck happened, maybe there's an explanation...???
Good luck to you and try to keep strong.
From what I read, it sounds like he still wants his cake and his ice cream too. I hope what I say next doesn't offend you, but here goes nothing ~ If you're willing to share him with others then stay in the relationship, otherwise, run, run as fast as you can!
He has been honest and told you what he is up to, now you just need to figure out what it is you're willing to accept in this relationship. If you want someone long term this may not be the guy that will work for you, but for a good time, he may be just the thing.
It sucks that he is doing this, but now that you know what's happening you need to do some soul searching within yourself and figure out what you really want.
I agree with Garrison, you don't have to decide today, tomorrow or the next day, take your time to decide what you need to do. I would also recommend writing in your journal on this site and maybe talking to a professional. I really into self-help books, maybe there is one out there that you can p/u that would help you to decide what you need to do.
Hang in there and be strong...This too shall pass~
Do you want to be in a relationship with someone who clearly does not love and appreciate you for you, or do you want something else/different/more?
Why don't you talk to a counsellor or someone who can help you decide what you want?
:you are the only one that stays
You are the only one he takes out
You are the only one he loves,
what he is DOING is downplaying your feelings about HIM sleeping with other people. He is actually acting like it is OK.
And its NOT. Unless you agreed to that. By chance, did you HAPPEN, upon getting into a relationship with him, AGREE that the B O T H of you could fuck other people and that this would not be a monogamous relationship?
If not, he cheated on you and personally, I would not wait around or STAY with an idiot that tells me in so many words
"pat pat honey, its ok that I fucked someone else. You stay over. I love you more. I take you out. Don't you get it? You are my TOP NOTCH on the ladder, these other hos are nothing".
If you want to settle for second best the rest of your life, stay with him. Otherwise leave. It sounds like you have your own place, and he has his, and I did not hear any mentioning of kids.
PLEASE CUT him off NOW. He BASICALLY said to you that you are the fuck that stays over night, hence you are THAT much more important.
Wouldn't you RATHER have a boyfriend who tells you straight up "gee honey, there was this girl hitting on me tonight at the bus/subway/bar, whatever, and I told her NO, because I LOVE YOU, ADMIRE YOU, RESPECT YOU, RESPECT US, and she is NOTHING compared to you?
I think thats what you want. I think that is what we all want.
Please dont let him fool you with the "stupid card" as in "What do you MEAN I cheated? I am JUST NOW telling you that I fuck other women. Big deal. I love you best sweetie".
If he LOVED you, he wouldn't be sticking his penis or time in anyone else but you.
I know you feel destroyed. Trust me. But find something to do for YOU that has nothing to do with him to help your situation and feelings out for a while. And please remember, you were born breathing without him for a reason.