I am new here. My wife is cheating on me. I am 100% sure. I even know his name, address, phone #, birthday, and where he works. My W does not know I know. We have been togather 20 years. We lived togather for 13 years first and only got married because she has kidney failure and needed medical insurance, she is still on dialysis. We were in love but just grew apart. I blame myself for not giving her what she needs. I failed her emotionally and sexually. A happy wife wouldn't cheat. I know she doesn't love me anymore. I still love her, and this is tearing me apart inside. I was forced to retire this past April at the age of 49. Fianancialy, we are in deep shit. I try to find work but in Mich. it is really not easy. I know if I confront her it will all blow up and she will leave. I don't want this and will avoid this at all cost. She left 3 times yesterday and left allready this morning,to be with him. She makes excuses like going to a relatives or friends or to the store. She is going to her boyfriends, I am 100% sure. I need no more validation to that fact. Believe me I have seen the instant messages and heard her conversation on the phone. She can not afford to leave either, but she is very bull headed and would do it without thinking, eapecially now when her new relationship is in the new stages of can't get enough of each other. I don't want us to split up. I can't afford a divorce. We have 1 child he is 18 and never graduated. He doesn't work. I know he would be crushed if we split up. The only thing worse than how bad I feel inside, is the thought of going thru another divorce. I still love her and do not want to lose her. Here's the irony, I think God is punishing me, for leaving my first wife, to be with this woman, 20 years ago. My life is a mess. I have never felt so bad inside in my life. Should I prepare for the worst? What do I do now?
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