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WTF is going on?!

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I had my FET today. I should be happy, right? Well, somethings just didn't seem right today. First of all, no one ever checked with us to see how many we wanted to transfer. When I talked to RE about it (Wednesday) I told him that we were trying to decide between 2 & 3. He said that he would have the lab call me first thing in the morning. No one called yesterday. So, I called the office and they said that they didn't need to know right then. I proceeded with my day and didn't think about it. Today when I arrived to pre-op the embryologist came up to DH and I and said that he thawed 3 embies. I never told him how many and neither did DH. I had 13 good embies and the embryologist said that he had to thaw 7 of them to get the 3 "ok" embryos. My mind was racing with thoughts at this time. Then when I asked where the pictures were that they took of the 3 that they were transferring and they said the printer was broke! There isn't another printer in this HUGE hospital?! It has only been two hours since my transfer and I am so confused. This is my first, so I don't know if this is considered normal. Are doctor's supposed to thaw what they want? Why didn't we have a say in this? Did two look "bad" so they decided to thaw another (even though I didn't give them permission)? Ultimatley we were going to transfer three, but that is not the point! Please give any advice!
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I have never had any thawed, but from what I know not all the follicles survive a thaw and that may of been why they needed to do the 10 to get the three. Although, I do think they should of asked if you wanted 2 or 3 because if you only wanted 2 then that could be one more frozen still.

Not sure about the printer. I would be a little upset too.

I am praying that although it did not go how it maybe should have, that the 3 they used turn into a BFP for you!
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I am so sorry about your experience! I was told by the embryologist that when they thaw the embryos, they might not be good. So even though I had six frozen, I may only have one or two good embryos if we use FET.
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It all behind you now. All you need to worry about from this point is giving those embies a healthy place to grow in. But I will tell you originally for my FET my RE was going to take 5 embies out to thaw. He ended up thawing 8. I have a lot of faith in my RE and his office so I just have to think that they know what is best. Take care of your self and don't stress too much. I know it is easier said than done. Sticky baby dust!
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OH that is soooo frustrating! It's just so hard to stay calm during all of this b/c you want it so bad and b/c you're horomones are all messed up right now. That's great that you ultimately were going to go w/ three embryos anyways. I bet the doctor made the decision to give you the best chances of a successful pregnancy. Do not worry about that! Just keep your fingers and toes crossed and rest up! Try not to stress!!!
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I think you should have been the one ultimately making the decision, but I don't know for sure.
I go in for my first FET on January 3rd, if all goes well with my u/s tomorrow. I was never told that all 5 wouldn't make the thaw, that freaks me out.
We only have 5 and we planned on doing 2 then 3 if they didn't work. Uh oh! Better ask the doc tomorrow.

Sorry about your crappy situation. I pray that you are pregnant with this FET!
God Bless!
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My husband and I had our first FET on 12/7, and the doctor told us that they had to thaw 3 at a time because they are frozen together in a straw like tube. Maybe that is why they had to thaw three. Best of luck with your FET!
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I've had two FETs. What happens is the embryos are frozen in groups of two or three, so they will start with that first tube and watch the embryos thaw. As they thaw, the live ones fill out as they rehydrate and the ones that aren't going to make it remain shrivelled and don't rehydrate. So, if the doctor got no viable embryos after the first thaw, he would immediately remove another tube of two or three, and the process goes from there. It is the only way to get the three you want to transfer. More than likely the ones you lost were lost in the freezing process. I'm sorry you lost four little ones. I understand. I've lost all 11 of mine. Best of luck with your FET! Hugs and babydust your way...
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I'm sorry to hear that your FET didn't go as planned. Try to relax though, I'm sure your embryologist knows what is best for your chances to get pregnant.
When are embryo's were frozen we requested that they each be frozen in seperate straws. We only ended up with two so I don't know if that will have helped us or hurt us.
Good Luck.
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