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deleted_user 10/19/2007

after a year of trying to conceive naturally. we finally did. i was 6 weeks pregnant and loving every mintune of it. then the unthinkable happen. i started bleeding. iwent to the er and they could fine the baby. i had a misscarriage. never in my wildest dreams could of ever thought this would happen to me. and now here i am trying to deal with the loss of my child. every one keeps telling me that aleast it happen early. i don't care when it happen. i just know i lost my baby . the one i loved from day one. the one done picked evrey thing out for. it was my baby i lost. apart of me. it is something that will never go away. i want to try for another baby. but the doctor says wait three months. how can they tell someone who lost there baby. that they have to wait three months to try for another baby. when that is the only thing in this world that would make them happen. i just want to be mom. so how can he tell me i have to wait three months to try to have another baby

deleted_user 10/19/2007

Jewels89, I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I know your doctor telling you to wait three months is not what you want to hear right now. I sure it's because your body needs time to heal and he wants you to be in good condition before getting pregnant.
I couldn't even begin to imagine what your going through, to have the excitement of being pregnant and then the devastation of your miscarriage. I keep you in my pray for you. Know that I'm here for you if you need to talk. God Bless

deleted_user 10/19/2007

I;m so sorry for you. I can't imagine what you are going through. To finally get pregnant and then to go through that agony. We're all hear for you if you need to vent or talk.

deleted_user 10/19/2007

I am sorry you lost your child. I have not gone through that myself. I know some dr's tell people to try again right away and some say wait. It could be that he wants your body to regulate a little first. Good luck with what ever happens next. And again, I am very sorry for your loss.

deleted_user 10/19/2007

I'm so, so sorry. I will me thinking of you, and we are all here to help you, in any way that we can....anyone who says "good thing it happened early" can shove it. Your baby is your baby, it doens't matter when. I am so sorry.....

deleted_user 10/21/2007

I've been in the same boat as you. It is really hard to understand how bad things happen to good people. Its not hard at this point to question why and truthfully we may never know the reasons. I lost my child at 7wks and we've been trying for almost 2yrs. I even took fertility treatments. Its been almost 2months since I lost my child and you'll never forget but time does take the edge off it. Give yourself some slack everything your feeling is normal. God bless and i'm here if you need me (sorry so long)

deleted_user 10/21/2007

The three month thing is questionable... I've had five miscarriages. The one at 8 weeks, we had to wait for one full cycle after the first negative HPT, from a physical standpoint. The one at 14 weeks, they had us wait for 3 months, but it's a bit different when you're so far along. The ones between 5 and 7 weeks, we were able to continue with treatments the following cycle. I think emotionally, it was harder when we went straight forward - it felt like we were 'forgetting' which I know isn't true. I would ask your doctor WHY you have to wait 3 months. If it's for emotional reasons, then the decision is really between you and your husband. Only the two of you will know when you're BOTH ready.

deleted_user 10/21/2007

I'm so sorry

deleted_user 10/21/2007

I'm sorry hon I can help I have been there far to many times if u need to talk scream or vent I'm here.

deleted_user 10/22/2007

aw jewel, I am with you and feel your pain. I had 2 ectopic pregnancies this year, and both were so wanted. After each one, people would say stupid things like 'oh well, it wasnt meant to be' and other really insensitive things. Your loss is awful and I think the reason they suggest 3 months is really for your body to heal and your mind to start to ease a bit. You need to grieve for your loss otherwise it becomes more painful. If you ever need to chat just message me. We are all here with you xxxx

deleted_user 10/22/2007

I know the three month wait is hard to take. You don't want to hear it. But from a personal standpoint, there are reasons. You need to grieve for the baby you lost. I know that you'll never stop grieving (I know I haven't), but you need to be emotionally ready next time you try. Your body also needs time to heal and move past it. I had a friend who had a m/c in dec. and was pg again by feb. and she ended up losing that one too. You don't want to push your body too hard. I know it's a difficult time. I'm very sorry for your loss. I wish you all the luck in the future.

deleted_user 10/22/2007

I'm so sorry - i went through the same thing in July. Its so blindsighting because you spend so much time worrying about getting pregnant that the fact you might loose that baby is not even a consideration. Not to contradict your doctors orers...I dont know your specific situation but my doctor told me that as soon as I had a normal period we could try again. She said as long as you dont have a d&c there is no reason to wait other than emotional reasons. Just an fyi...

deleted_user 10/22/2007

"At least it happened early" means nothing, it is no consolation and actually, as far as I'm concerned, unfairly downplays what you're going through. You deeply wanted your baby. Losing a much wanted, worked-for pregnancy is one of the most painful experiences imaginable. Once you've had that positive pregnancy test, your heart and soul have accepted parenthood. Doesn't matter how long you've been pregnant, miscarriage is a loss like none other. I miscarried at 8w after a successful IVF, I truly do understand what you're going through. Never felt such deep despair, never felt so alone in my life. Please check out the Miscarriage/Stillbirth forum here on DS...it helped me tremendously. You'll find support there from people who understand exactly what you're going through which is so important. All the best to you...wishing you strength during this tough tough time.

deleted_user 10/22/2007

I am sooo sorry to hear this. Remember God is with you.
God bless you

deleted_user 10/22/2007

I'm so sorry that this happened to you and that you are going through this. We are all here if you need us.

deleted_user 10/22/2007

Sorry to read about your loss.
Take care and all the best

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