Infertility Support Group

In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.

2,574 Members
29,924 Posts
0 Online
Women's Health
/ Infertility Support Group

waiting to have another child ?

deleted_user
deleted_user
Hello, I was just wanting to know if any one can tell me which way to turn. I am planning on having another child, after I finish nursing school, the problem is my age and the endo. I lost a baby girl in 2005 at 4 month and a week. I was devestated, I've always wanted , dreamed of having 1boy and 1 girl, small family. I have a son 14, he has autism, I was 19 when I had him and GOD how I adore him! I have always longed for that little girl and losing my baby girl only made me want to try even more. I know I must first finish school, but I am worried that by that time, I will be in my late thirties. I'm not even quite sure if I can still have children, I only have my left ovary and so much scar tissue from lap.'s . I will never be complete unless I at least try, but I wonder , which is really most important to me, having a child now or say in the next year or so, or finishing school? I may not physically be able to have a baby when I am ready, so just how is one to decide? I have been thinking about this daily and it has become to consume me. I do struggle with my son, yet at 14 who dosen't with a teenager! lol, so can any one tell me how do you sort out what ya feel, want, desire, versus what ya need, what is right, and just, for my situation?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Only you can make that decision, but my opinion, start trying for that baby now. School will always be there, but the ability to have a child is questionable, or may take some time considering the issues you've stated. Good luck with your decision.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am 37 and only have my right ovary (& no tubes) and I just got PG with IVF, but it took me 3 years to get here with a bunch of stress in between. When I was in my early 30's the doctors warned me that if I waited too long, it would probably take longer to get pregnant, and it did. So, that's a hard decision to make. I guess it depends also on what your infertility problem is and easy it is to fix. School is important too, but I guess school doesn't have a time limit. What does your gut say? Good luck deciding.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I was having that same conversation with myself yesterday. I was angry in some ways that I waited so long to try. I always knew I needed fertility treatments to have a child. I was waiting until I met the right person, the person I wanted to raise a family with. I was also waiting unitl I was in a financially better situation.
But sometimes today turns into next week, turns into next year and so on.
I can only pray that waiting did not determine if I end up having a child of my own.
But you have to make that decision for yourself.
Right now in my life, I have opportunities at work, but I am chosing to have a child. To me, that is more important in the long run. But, you need to be able to provide too. And that is where it gets tricky.
If you think deep and pray hard, you will find the answer in your heart.
Good luck with what ever you decide.
Posts You May Be Interested In
  • irishwriter

    come unwind in the bp lounge

    Posted by: irishwriter
    Last Reply: irishwriter
    7916
    theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
  • Rizen

    Walk a Day

    Posted by: Rizen
    Last Reply: mujicaptsd
    1874
    I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...