Hi TTCMel. I am so sorry you have to go through this. I have been trying to have a baby for 4 years and I feel I'm at the end of my rope-I can only imagine how you feel TTC for 8 years. For me, time makes it worse. The first couple of years I was full of hope but now the more time passes without me having a baby the less hope I have. It doesn't help when everyone around me is having babies. I'm so tired of going through all these medical procedures/testing. I feel like a human guinea pig. I keep telling myself that this will all be worth it in the end. Hang in there. Just know you are not alone. I understand how you feel and I'm sure many other ladies on this site do to. All we can do is try our best to stay positive and hope for the best. If you ever need to talk, I'm here. Good Luck!

ya we are over the 5 year mark too. It does just get harder and harder all the time. I'm sometimes almost numb to it now. It's almost as though the dream i disappearing. But I still hope everyday. This probaly doesn't make you feel any better but just know that you're not alone in the agony of it all

Bella I know what you mean about the dream disappearing... I remember years ago I could see myself as a mom and finaly holding my baby but now... I don't see it!

We've been trying for 4 years--i feel like I've become numb to it too. There's just this huge void in my life right now....

I know what you all mean. My biggest thing is that ALL my friends and family have kids and some that did not even want them have them. It is so hard to be happy for someone that has what you want!

I have been TTC for 7 1/2 years so I am right there with ya. I was ready to giv up when last month we finally got a BFP, only to end up losing it, but at least we got a BFP I hadn't had one ever, so now I feel like I am ready to start fighting again cause I now know that it is possible.

I have been trying since 96 thats 11 years, 3 husbands later. And the worse part of it is that they can find no reason why. Hang in there I know everyone says that and boy I hate it when they do. BUT believe me I know where you are at if you ever need to talk let me know

We've been trying for 2 years, but it feels like forever! Wow, 8 years for you...I give you so much credit for hanging in there and persuing your dream of having a child. I agree, it is hard each day. Just know that so many of us feel the same say, no matter how long we've been trying, so you're definitely not alone out there. Best of luck.

For me, the first year wasn't hard because I didn't know we were infertile yet. I knew that sometimes it takes almost a year to get pregnant. The second year I started to really feel it. The worry, the aching, the wondering...By the third year, I was miserable. I didn't understand how someone like me, who had wanted to grow up and be a mother more than anything else, who was so anxious to be a mom I never used any birth control (I didn't have sex until I was married), could not be having a baby! During the fourth year, I did a lot of soul searching. I had to ask myself if I was going to be unhappy the rest of my life if I didn't have a baby. As much as I didn't want to think about it, I decided I had to face up to the possiblity. I wasn't giving up hope, but I had decided that I was going to find happiness no matter what. That was the best decision I ever made. Thankfully, I was blessed with my first pregnancy during my sixth year of TTC. I am glad that I made peace with childlessness before I became pregnant. I don't think it would have been fair to expect my daughter to fill the responsibility of my happiness. I personally found my peace by deciding to make my marriage amazing. I thought of all the things we could do that couples with kids couldn't do. I thought of the people and children I could help because I wasn't tied down taking care of a family. These things were not what I wanted, but they were a wonderful alternative to being unhappy. I hope I don't seem unfeeling by saying this. I truly do feel for you. Don't give up, But do find joy! I have two very close friends who never had children: one is in her 50s now and the other is 93. I know it has been hard for them. One of them found happiness, the other didn't. The one that is happy is so much better off! I hope you have a baby, and chances are that you will--but no matter what, let love heal your broken heart.

WOW, if you don't find encouragement here I don't know where. I have only been trying 2 years and it gets harder by the month!! I so agree with Jaxie, you have to ask yourself "Am I going to be happy without a child?" That is a hard question, but your future child can't make you happy, she/he needs to add to the happiness you have already cultivated in your life!

We have been trying 4-5 years. There are many couple around us who have had babies after babies, and I have only given birth to 4 doggies, which i love with all my heart.Only God knows when and if I will ever have my own baby. Good luck in your journey.I always pray for us all.

We have been TTC for just over 6 years now and although it has been hard, I think we have both grown through this experience. What do they say... "if it doesn't kill you it will make you stronger!" Not a very comforting thought, I know, but in our case I feel we have grown closer together through our trials and perhaps got to know ourselves better too. Looking back, our quest for parenthood has been a journey - with evolving emotions and perspectives. And my prayer is that, no matter how much longer we're on this path for, we grow closer to each other, we keep a positive outlook and our faith in God deepens. Thank you for the awesome support through this site and my prayers to all of you TTC.

Well, next month will be 9 long years of ttc for us. Soo much truth in the comments said from Jaxie. We do the same thing. Look at other younger couples and say things to ourselves to make us feel a bit better. but deep down inside, I hope, pray and wish with all I have that I would have that problem of having to cancel an outting because of 'the baby'. My heart aches to see my younger cousins struggle with their babies, they are not ready, not mature, or whatever their problems are and everytime they talk about them, they regret having them so soon in their lives. Then they say hurtful things like 'you two should have a baby soon, before your time runs out' or 'you guys would be great parents, why don't you have kids?' I feel like saying 'wtf do you think that we've been trying to do all this time??!!!' but I know it's not their fault. Sorry to vent on your subject, but I am very emotional right about now and needed to do this.

We've been trying for 6 years. It is hard and there are times when I am ready to give up and say forget it. But since they can't find any "medical" reason why we still haven't conceived, we just keep pushin thru. Good Luck to you:)