When women are trying to conceive, each negative pregnancy test is a loss and it is natural to experience grief. You need to be gentle with yourself when you receive this news and allow yourself to feel the sadness of this loss. Make sure you have your support systems in place and do things to relax and let yourself heal.

I am sorry to hear that your pregnancy test was negative. I know how it feels to be so excited each month, and to get your period or get a negative pregnancy test, you just feel so sad.
Have you had any tests done to see why you haven\'t gotten pregnant yet? Let me know if I can help.
vlt

Hello. Thanks \"vit\" and \"CSR\" for your words. It means a lot.

I want to tell everybody something. We\'ve been trying to have a baby for almost 4 years, but we didn\'t want to try medicines or treatments, we wanted that it happened natural. We didn\'t get any tests done to see why I haven\'t gotten pregnant yet. When my husband came for Christmas vacation he told me that he got faith in God that I will be pregnant this time. But it was 4 years, and I felt that I didn\'t got enough faith. All the time he was telling me that I am pregnant, that he has faith in God. In this days when we talked he still tell me that I\'m pregnant, and told me about his faith in God, even when I told him that the urine pregnancy test was negative. The same day of the pregnancy test I had an apointment with my Doctor, in the afternoon. I told her the symptons that I felt, and she said that it could be too early for the urine pregnancy test and sent me to the laboratory again for the blood pregnancy test. Because it was almost time to close the laboratory, I didn\'t know the results until next day. The next day a nurse called me and tell me that the results are negative. What else I can say but \"ok\". A minute later the same nurse called again to apologize, because the test that was negative was the urine test, but the blood test is positive. Theres no word to explain how we feel, but the first thing is that we are so grateful to God. The faith can move mountains, my husband prayed to God and never give up his faith.

In response to the previous discussion on faith I have to say a couple of things, although none of them are to discount or disagree with anyone\'s faith systems. I believe in God. I also believe that God has a plan for each of us. The thing I want to remind people about is this: God isn\'t doing any of this to punish us. That\'s not how He works. One doesn\'t get to Heaven on good deeds, and God doesn\'t give us children as a reward. If that was the case, anyone who didn\'t believe in God wouldn\'t conceive, only \"good Christians.\" We may not understand *why* the Lord does things the way He does and we will probably never understand it. In the same light, I judge no one for the methods they employ in the struggle; regardless of nature or science or whatever means one uses to achieve this desire, you don\'t need to feel that your faith is less if you go the medical route. In my opinion (and it may very well differ from yours), God gave Man the knowledge to use these techniques and medications, so there is nothing sacriligious or faithless in using the gifts that God has given us. Once again, there is nothing wrong with hoping for a \"natural\" pregnancy, but, at the same time, the medical route *is* \"natural\" for us. The point is, don\'t feel that you have less faith than you do simply because you are trying to achieve the dream we all share. The *path* isn\'t all-important if you get the same place in the end.

Hello Char. I'm sorry if I offend you, I didn't mean it. What I was telling is that for us is a miracle that I got pregnant, because it was almost 4 years waiting for this moment. Months of deppresion, anxiety, anger. I didn't mean that it is bad use medicines, I'm totally agreed in using it. We didn't use anything because many people that I heard that use it had twins, triplets, and we maybe were a little afraid to have twins of triplets, he want one at a time, I don't now if that make any sense. And that is why we didn't try any medicine or treatment to have babies. But I think is ok with anybody that wanted to use it, there is nothing bad on that. I just wanted to share what happend to us, because every month that I had my period I felt very sad, and I thought that if I share this with somebody, maybe it give her a little bit of strength to continue with the plans to have a baby, that the person that read this don't give up in trying, because there is still hope.

What FANTASTIC news, Sowie! I am so very, very happy for you. Please, keep us updated on your pregnancy, your health and the health of the baby. You are begining a wonderful journey. We are still here, with other communities you might find helpful (like pregnancy and parenting). Be well, and stay in touch.