I have a cousin who has been ttc for ages. She and her DH just adopted a little girl a year and a half ago. It has been the right thing for them. But now she's starting to ttc again. The thing is she's only ever used clomid. And that's it. She did a year and a half of clomid (and gained a ton of weight on it), no u/s, no IUI. Just clomid and LH kit testing and charting. For a year and a half. And now she's planning on doing it again for another year and a half! And if (or rather WHEN) it doesn't work they'll just adopt again. I think she's completely wasting her time and money by only doing clomid when she already knows it didn't work before. I think she should either try something else (a different drug, or IUI or see an RE instead of her OB or anything!) or just save her money and emotional strength on her second adoption. I met with her for lunch earlier this week and we chatted a little. She never asked me for advice or what I've tried. I hesitated to give her advice when she didn't ask for it (because others have done that to me and I didn't necessarily appreciate it) but I'm half kicking myself for not saying something. We all know that if something hasn't worked after 4 tries then the chances that it will ever work are very low. We all know there are lots of other options for her. So, my question is, should I speak up and give her advice she never asked for, or just keep my mouth shut and support her as she goes along on her own plan again? What would you do if it were you?
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