Infertility Support Group

In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.

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I have only been in this IVF world for about three weeks I think and I have told four friends what we are planning on giving this a shot. My DH wants to keep this under wraps until we know the outcome but I was so excited, I shared. Now I kind of regret that decision.

Out of the four people I told, three were kind of negative saying things like, "don't you remember what a two year old is like", "are you sure you want to gain all that weight again", "Don't you remember those sleepless nights" etc. Nothing but comments...where I thought they would be really excited and happy for me. I had one person who was over the top excited which was nice.

Why the negativity? Is it that people just don't know how to react? Do they think it's weird? Now I'm wondering if I do get a BFP, how will they react then? Or if it is BFN will they be supportive or will they say, "see, it was a bad idea". I'm just not feeling the love man!
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i think they havent been through what we all been through and the appreciation isnt there,its so easy for lots and they dont appreciate it..
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I have never had a baby so I can't relate to the sleepless nights and pg weight gain but I think I can say without any experience that I would think the positives about bringing a new baby into the world outweigh those negatives. Don't let that negative energy get you down! You should be excited about moving forward and being closer to your BFP! I think I would respond to your friends about all the wonderful things about babies and children. I am sure they far outweight the negative!
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I think it's more about them then about how they feel about you... some people just say stupid things like "you sure you want another kid?"... it's just how they themselves feel about children, which is fine, everyone has a right to their own opinions, but it's a stupid thing to say to someone who is struggling so much to have a baby.
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Just focus on you! I agree, most people don't really understand this process and what it took to get to this point. I know I have only told a select few people, just because I don't need any negativity from anywhere/anyone right now.

Don't focus on what other people think! You're too busy making a baby! :)
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