Infertility Support Group
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Here's the short story:
Did IVF in Sept/Oct. Got my BFP on 10/22 (ER 10/7), it doubled 10/24, 10/26. Went for first u/s 10/31, saw the sac. Went in today for the second u/s and there is no heartbeat yet. I know this is not good and anticipated this as I "just haven't felt pregnant" in several days. (I lost a baby this summer further along than this and just before we went into that ultrasound I also started to feel "not pregnant"--you just know, call it a mother's intuition.)
The doctor is great and was candid and supportive. His exact quote "I'm not bringing out the long face and the I'm so sorry's, but I'm not breaking out the champagne either." I go back next Friday, provided I don't m/c before then to see where things are at.
Having travelled down a very similar road, just being a little bit further along in the pregnancy, I know that when the heartbeat doesn't show up on time or if it stops, it never really comes back--or at least it hasn't for me. My last m/c in July took almost 4 weeks from the time we found out the baby's heart had stopped until she left me. I am doing much better emotionally this time, but I don't want to wait forever for another m/c either.
Now to my question...
Last time I continued with my progestrone for a couple weeks after it was suspected I was going to loose the baby. Finally, the week before I physically lost I asked the dr. if the progestrone was still necessary and he said agreed that at that point I could stop and it might help the m/c come along quicker. Of course, I was 10 weeks by that time.
So, I am debating whether or not I should continue the progestrone. I don't want to if it is going to help prolong the inevitable. Then again, if a miracle were to occur and the hb and growth took off....
I'm not going to hold on to false hope like I did last time. I will pray that a miracle happens, but I am not counting on it like I did this summer. I'm just ready for this painful chapter to end, the sooner it ends I can grieve and move on.
Any ideas or suggestions?
Did IVF in Sept/Oct. Got my BFP on 10/22 (ER 10/7), it doubled 10/24, 10/26. Went for first u/s 10/31, saw the sac. Went in today for the second u/s and there is no heartbeat yet. I know this is not good and anticipated this as I "just haven't felt pregnant" in several days. (I lost a baby this summer further along than this and just before we went into that ultrasound I also started to feel "not pregnant"--you just know, call it a mother's intuition.)
The doctor is great and was candid and supportive. His exact quote "I'm not bringing out the long face and the I'm so sorry's, but I'm not breaking out the champagne either." I go back next Friday, provided I don't m/c before then to see where things are at.
Having travelled down a very similar road, just being a little bit further along in the pregnancy, I know that when the heartbeat doesn't show up on time or if it stops, it never really comes back--or at least it hasn't for me. My last m/c in July took almost 4 weeks from the time we found out the baby's heart had stopped until she left me. I am doing much better emotionally this time, but I don't want to wait forever for another m/c either.
Now to my question...
Last time I continued with my progestrone for a couple weeks after it was suspected I was going to loose the baby. Finally, the week before I physically lost I asked the dr. if the progestrone was still necessary and he said agreed that at that point I could stop and it might help the m/c come along quicker. Of course, I was 10 weeks by that time.
So, I am debating whether or not I should continue the progestrone. I don't want to if it is going to help prolong the inevitable. Then again, if a miracle were to occur and the hb and growth took off....
I'm not going to hold on to false hope like I did last time. I will pray that a miracle happens, but I am not counting on it like I did this summer. I'm just ready for this painful chapter to end, the sooner it ends I can grieve and move on.
Any ideas or suggestions?
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
It may not prolong the enevitable but, help keep the pregnancy...the exact thing it is meant to do, right?
I agree with Jenn17, it's not too late for a miracle. I would love for your miracle to be now. I am sending you happy thoughts right now at this moment...did you feel it? You are in my thoughts.