I can't believe the way this jerk treated you. In situations like this trying to be polite & evasive doesn't always work. Sometimes you just have to be blunt & tell them that it's none of their damn business.

Amen! You are so right on the money! Thanks for your reply!

I am sorry you had to go through that. Some people don't know when to stop talking.

I agree with traciq!!! I've been in that situation before and I'll just look at them with a sad face and say something like "we've been trying for a while now". Most of the time people get the hint without me getting drilled with personal questions. If they don't shut up about it, I simply ignore their questions and change the subject. I guess if they haven't gone through it themselves, they don't understand how heart breaking it can be. I try to give people the benefit of the doubt I guess.

Ugh! I HATE this question. There is this one particular busy body in a club we belong to. She makes it her mission to go so far as accusing me of being pregnant, which hurts all the more. I am dreading our christmas party this weekend, where I know I will be fielding more invasive questions from this rude woman. I just hope I can keep it together and not COMPLETELY go off on her!

I read Dear Abby, every day. One day a writer wrote in with a similar question, and I thought that her answer was great- she told the couple that when they are asked about having children tell them, We are waiting until God is ready for us to have a baby. . Now I am not a deeply religious person, however I think this is a wonderful response. Someone really can not argue with Gods timing!

I hate when people probe like that! Especially when they never had trouble having children and feel like we are doing something wrong. I feel like telling them, "Thank you for asking and making me feel even worse about my situation. Now that you have ruined my day I hope yours is just peachy!"

That is crazy! Most people who probe like that always apologized to us when we offered the info that were were doing IF treatments. I work with one woman who knows my situation well and every time she see's me she says "Pregnant Yet?" Finally I just said "Asking an infertile person if they're pregnant yet is like asking a fat person when they're going to diet. It may be something they can't control." She just got all wide eyed... But hasn't asked again! I would also say "what makes you so interested in OUR sex life?" implying they don't have one. That one should work too!

The way I have been feeling I probably would have chewed his rude and ignorant butt out!

I was sitting at my desk last week and 2 women were talking in the office next to me. One was saying how her friend has been going through all kinds of fertility treatments, but has had no luck. Do you know what this inconsiderate woman replied - "Oh no - tell her to stop all that stuff. She just needs to relax and it will happen naturally". Wow - sure wish I had thought of that...before I spent thousands and thousands of dollars on fertility treatments! so that's all it is? I just need to relax...wow - thanks. Some people can be so obtuse. of course this women has a few kids of her own.

Half of my family does not even know that my husband and I have a problem much less that we are going through treatments. They will say exactly titlhwp wrote.

I am really dreading christmas with my family this year for all those reasons!

It's so unfortunate the kind of stigmas that are out there. If people could understand what it feels like to be in our situation, they would never say such things. When people do hurtful things out of ignorance, I try to politely educate them. Sometimes its so frustrating to be marginalized.

That is so rude - next time say 'I have a few detailed questions about your sex life and then we can go into my issues' or 'I would be happy to tell you all about it if you plan to pay some of the bill, how about 50%?'.

What an idiot.