Infertility Support Group
In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.
Hi everyone - I'm new to this site and am hoping that it helps me deal with a lot of issues that are weighing heavily on me these last few months.
I'm 31 years old and have been TTC for close to 5 years. Have been married for almost 7 years and finally made the bold move to see and RE after 6 unsuccessful attempts with Chlomid. Started to see the RE in 10/2006 and started with Provera since I have irregular periods. Startd my cycle and went for bloodwork and U/S for monitoring - 2 large cysts. On BC pill to remove cysts - skip the first cyle of gonotropins (injectables). Wait until next month, did not need Provera, start injectables for 12 days - IUI -- didn't work. Start again during 2nd cycle (no Provera needed again), injectables for close to 13 days and 2nd IUI - again, unsuccessful. Go back again this past week on cycle day #3 to start the 3rd round, have two large cysts on left side so it's cancelled again.
Honestly, I feel like there is no escape from this. It consumes me each day and no one, unless they have been there, seems to understand the feeling of hopelessness, failure, despair, grief and sadness that gets all wrapped up into one. My husband is not the emotional type and barely concerns himself with anything or gives me the chance to feel "blue" or bummed out .. he says I put too much pressure on myself. But it's not like I'm getting any younger and there is a guarantee that it will ever work. My MD claims I have unexplained infertility .. no PCOS, tubes and uterus fine .. I think that makes it even more frustrating.
Anyone in the similar situation? I have 6 approved IUI's from my ins. company and I just keep this mental count in my head that if it doesn't work in 6 cycles, what do I do? After 3 unsuccessful attempts, laparscopy surgery is required ... and I'm freaking out. I'm going on my 3rd cycle next month.
I just need to vent .. talk ... seek advice ... seek friends in the similar situation. And I think I might have found the right place ;)
I'm 31 years old and have been TTC for close to 5 years. Have been married for almost 7 years and finally made the bold move to see and RE after 6 unsuccessful attempts with Chlomid. Started to see the RE in 10/2006 and started with Provera since I have irregular periods. Startd my cycle and went for bloodwork and U/S for monitoring - 2 large cysts. On BC pill to remove cysts - skip the first cyle of gonotropins (injectables). Wait until next month, did not need Provera, start injectables for 12 days - IUI -- didn't work. Start again during 2nd cycle (no Provera needed again), injectables for close to 13 days and 2nd IUI - again, unsuccessful. Go back again this past week on cycle day #3 to start the 3rd round, have two large cysts on left side so it's cancelled again.
Honestly, I feel like there is no escape from this. It consumes me each day and no one, unless they have been there, seems to understand the feeling of hopelessness, failure, despair, grief and sadness that gets all wrapped up into one. My husband is not the emotional type and barely concerns himself with anything or gives me the chance to feel "blue" or bummed out .. he says I put too much pressure on myself. But it's not like I'm getting any younger and there is a guarantee that it will ever work. My MD claims I have unexplained infertility .. no PCOS, tubes and uterus fine .. I think that makes it even more frustrating.
Anyone in the similar situation? I have 6 approved IUI's from my ins. company and I just keep this mental count in my head that if it doesn't work in 6 cycles, what do I do? After 3 unsuccessful attempts, laparscopy surgery is required ... and I'm freaking out. I'm going on my 3rd cycle next month.
I just need to vent .. talk ... seek advice ... seek friends in the similar situation. And I think I might have found the right place ;)
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My husband and I have been TTC for one year. Our infertility is primarily due to DH's motility rate. We can have our own children, however, we will need help from IVF and the Grace of God. We undergo our first IVF cycle this month.
I hope everything works out for you. Here is what I remind myself of daily. . . . I WILL be a mother one day. . . whether it takes IVF or adoption. . . the only thing it costs me is time and money, but I can't put a price on a child.
Best wishes and baby dust to you!!
One thing that *really* helped me with the depression was that I decided I was going to be OK even if I could never have kids. That if it doesn't happen for me I will still go on, and can still have a happy, fulfilling life. It took me quite a while to get to a point where I could realize this, but when I did, the depression really melted away.
This is an EXCELLENT community for venting, talking and advice!! I was sure glad when I found it :) Best of luck to you!!
My husband aslo is not the emotional type. I don't think he understands how difficult it is for me to every month when I find out I am not pregnant. I know this is a great place to vent, talk, and seek advice. You are in my prayers.
I cried when I read your post. I know almost exactly how you feel. (as much as anyone can). I was on clomid for 3 months and just did my first round of IUI. We have been TTC for almost 2 years. The clomid gave me terrible cysts and actually set me back 2 months to start IUI. I get so frustrated by people at work. They say things like "You can borrow my kids for a weekend, then you'll change your mind about wanting to have kids" Or people tell me to just relax and it'll happen.
That is a lot easier said than done. It seems like every other day someone i know finds out they're PG. I just wonder when it will ever be my chance.
I have a question: Did an RE confirm it's not PCOS? The cysts make me wonder.
You can have symptoms of it and not have it 100%.
Good luck. I understand what you're going through and am here to talk. =)
I'm so sorry you've been through so much. I can relate...ttc 3 years now. Hubby is the same way kinda. He doesn't want anyone to know or talk about much with me, b/c it's too much on him. He thinks it's all his fault b/c his has a under average low sperm count. He doesn't get what I feel every month. He's only thinking about his feelings and that bothers me. I don't feel like I get enough support from him through this process. Good Luck to you :)