Sorry about the news. My husband and I have been trying for 3 years. I am a school teacher and it brings me to tears seeing how some kids are treated and parents not wanting the responsibility. I don't understand why those of us that want kids and will do right by them can't have them and there are kids out there having them who could care less. I told my husband I was afraid I would become one of those crazy cat ladies, he promised he wouldn't let that happen.=) Wishing you all the luck in the world.

here for ya girl if ever you need to talk.

It is very very frutsrating, sad, scary when a whole month worht of meds and IUI fail. But we are all so strong and are able to push through, try something different and regain hope. Although not in a row, I had 2 failed IUI's and then our most recent one we've gotten a bfp. Different med, different dose, perhaps just keep trying various options until something works. Good luck!

I've had 5 IUIs and many frustrations along the way. I've tried 3 different meds all together. The first IUI I was on Clomid (hated it!). Although Clomid works for some people I experienced 2 of the common side effects of it - dry CM and thinning of the uterine lining. I ended up having a chemical pg that cycle. I skipped one cycle and then started again. Because the Clomid thinned my lining so bad my RE switched me to Femara. It was soooooo much better - I had no side effects. I produced good follicles on it 2 cycles in a row but both IUIs failed. By this time I wanted to move to something stronger so I started Follistim (injectible). I got another BFN and after 3 in a row I needed a break. We took 2 months off and then I started the Follistim again. This time my RE increased my dose. One of the major differences that I and my RE noticed was a huge increase in CM (sorry tmi). Anyway, that was my 5th IUI and it worked! I got a BFP the day before Thanksgiving. I'm still very early in my pg so I'm trying to be cautiously optimistic.
I know it is so difficult to get a BFN after a whole month of the IUI process with meds and doctor visits, shots, etc. I always felt worse after a BFN from an IUI cycle than a BFN after a natural cycle. I think your hopes just get so high, especially when everything looks so perfect and then when it doesn't work it's devastating. But, please do not give up hope. It took us 5 tries before our BFP. Keep trying. Ask your RE about different meds if the one you are on isn't giving you the results you need.

Feel free to message me if you have any questions.

I too just had my second iui fail. I had surgery in September (3rd time) to remove endometriosis (stage 4). We also discovered my husband has problems. He was tested awhile ago and was ok but some issues have since developed. We are taking December off so he can get to the doctor to get some answers and will probably try again in January. It is very frustrating. It is hard to see everyone around you getting pregnant too. Try to stay strong and good luck to you!