You might not be the only one in your group of friends going through this. I found that when I started talking to people about what I am going through, there were others in the same boat. There are three of us at my worksite that are seeing the same fertility specialist...we might not have known this if I didn't open my big mouth but it takes someone to say it out loud first.

Keep your chin up. I know it is hard to deal with.

Cutiebugg,
I know exactly what you mean. My sister got pregnant with my 2 year old niece her FIRST MONTH off BC. I was so jealous. I love my niece to death, but i feel like it's so unfair that my sister got pregant her first month off BC and here I am 2 years later and no baby. now she is talking about baby # 2. i'm afraid she will get pregnant with her second one before i will have my first. i don't wish infertility on her, but i secretly hope i get pregnant before her so i don't have to deal with getting that news again. i am with you. it's a feeling, you can't help how you feel and there's nothing wrong with not wanting to be the only one going through this nightmare. my friends and co-workers are really judgemental and i get so mad. i also wish my in-laws could take a fertility sensitivity training class or something. my mother in law says some really hurtful things and it's not making this difficult experience any easier! love, court

I know exactly how you feel. None of my friends have had infertility problems. They have all gotten pregnant within 2 months of trying. It makes you feel very different from everyone else. Very isolated. I knew 8 people that were pregnant at one time. I had to go to 2 baby showers in one weekend. Nobody has any idea of what we are going through. Hang in there.

A big HUG to you!! A friend of mine has a circle of 12 friends, 10 of the 12 have had a baby within the past 2 yrs. Of the remaining 2, 1 just got married and the other 1 has infertility issues. She had one successful IVF and then miscarried. This circle of friends has get-togethers every month with their babies.

ALthough I personally don't have that problem, I have attended about 10 baby showers last year and already 2 this year. We were TTC well beforer my sister-in-law was with her baby #2. She got pregnant, miscarried, waited 6 months, got pregnant again, and now has a 6 month old daughter. We still do not have baby #1! It gets very frustrating.

cutiebugg: I am right there w/you. I understand fully. All of my friends have kids - I am literally the only one left w/none (as of yet). Even w/my close friends that I do things w/now and even those that I still keep in touch w/from high school. It is always easier if there is someone that is going through the same thing - that is why I joined here. So hang in there & best of luck to you!

im there. my lil sister has had a baby and all my friends have at least one. im the only one in my group that doesnt and i feel the same way. maybe if they had to go through it they would understand. instead if the usual "it will happen" comment.